Why Men Aren't Really Men Anymore

[Dynam0]

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Very nice summative commentary

[choof]

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I feel like I just need to flip a coin and figure out if I'm gay or not rofl

[dAnceguy117]

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Kinsey scale, bro

[Izzy]

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also because I haven't hated on this guy enough I'm just going to say that it's heteronormative to assume every guy wants a girl. some of us fellas are hella gay 8)

Awwww yis.

[EzExZeRo7497]

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Holy shit I just read the entire thing and I don't think I've cringed so hard in my entire life lmao

it's so stereotypical, condescending and just flat out ignorant i don't even understand how can anyone be this closed-minded

dissection

nailed it

[cetaka]

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maybe instead of talking about rly obvious things we should analyse the thing i posted some more cause its more interesting imo

[dAnceguy117]

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benevolent sexism

that is an excellent phrase. gonna steal that.

[Cavernio]

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"It is no secret that both men and women alike have sexual urges. Men, however, feel the need to get off more often than most women."

If we're generally speaking...From Wikipedia about libido: "Biologically, levels of hormones such as testosterone are believed to affect sex drive; social factors, such as work and family, also have an impact; as do internal psychological factors, like personality and stress."

(now goes and hides behind a rock while angry people throw things at me)

(honest question) Do you think that it's purely social pressures and influence that make prostitution far more common for women than men?

[Cavernio]

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women have more freedom to choice their own identity while men do not

You're free if you think you are.

[Cavernio]

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I feel like I just need to flip a coin and figure out if I'm gay or not rofl

Choof, I dunno what's going on in your head. You're gay, then you're asexual, then you love dogs wrapped in bubble wrap...come on now, make up your mind.

Seriously though, have you fallen in love or felt a deep connection or desire that involves you wanting to touch them (not necessarily sexually, just wanting to touch them) because it does or you think it would feel nice, with a woman? Now answer the same question but replace woman with man.

If you said yes to both those, you're bisexual. If you said yes to only one of those, it seems likely you're gay or straight.

I find questionnaires about sexuality a little off-putting myself. They seem solely focussed on sex and ignore the emotions involved. I think of myself as very straight as I've never felt anything remotely close to romantic love for a woman, but because I wouldn't shy away from sex with a woman if the rest of the sexual situation called for it, (and I would probably enjoy it), then I fall somewhere in the middle of some of the most popular sexual scales. I feel misrepresented by them.
Furthermore, I think it doesn't help lesbian and gay people truly explain who they are to outsiders if they're getting categorized solely by sexual activities. Yes it's your sexual identity, but most of us call love as more than just sex, so being gay or straight is about more than just sex too.

[moches]

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maybe instead of talking about rly obvious things we should analyse the thing i posted some more cause its more interesting imo

hypebeast can only run on HYPE for so long, but swag is ~forever~. swagbeast beats hypebeast easily

women have more freedom to choice their own identity while men do not

I'd say this is true in some contexts, not universally but there's definitely merit to the idea. Generally speaking, feminism has allowed women to build communities centered on solidarity and mutual respect. Men haven't really talked about those things, at least not on the level of a social movement on the level of feminism, and perhaps that's the next step to take in order to secure gender equality.

NOTE: I do acknowledge that men are still far ahead of women in many economic/political ways - they earn more, hold more positions of power and aren't subject to the same level of sexual scrutiny that women are. I'm not quite sure how that fits into this discussion, and I'm open to hearing more about it.

"It is no secret that both men and women alike have sexual urges. Men, however, feel the need to get off more often than most women."

If we're generally speaking...From Wikipedia about libido: "Biologically, levels of hormones such as testosterone are believed to affect sex drive; social factors, such as work and family, also have an impact; as do internal psychological factors, like personality and stress."

(now goes and hides behind a rock while angry people throw things at me)

(honest question) Do you think that it's purely social pressures and influence that make prostitution far more common for women than men?

*looks around for rocks, finds none*

Thanks for bringing that up, actually - it's true that hormones affect men and women differently and that should be taken into consideration when discussing gender equality. I don't think it's fair to say that men who either don't want to have sex or channel their sex drive through other ways are somehow lesser, though, which feels like what the writer is implying with this entire statement.

Regarding your question - I don't think it's purely social pressures and influence, but I...I honestly don't know. I'd wager that one really big part of it is that men who have lots of sex are more accepted by society than women who have lots of sex, which makes it a lot easier to succeed as a female prostitute than as a male prostitute. It's not the only cause, but it's something.

[moches]

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Choof, I dunno what's going on in your head. You're gay, then you're asexual, then you love dogs wrapped in bubble wrap...come on now, make up your mind.

Seriously though, have you fallen in love or felt a deep connection or desire that involves you wanting to touch them (not necessarily sexually, just wanting to touch them) because it does or you think it would feel nice, with a woman? Now answer the same question but replace woman with man.

If you said yes to both those, you're bisexual. If you said yes to only one of those, it seems likely you're gay or straight.

I find questionnaires about sexuality a little off-putting myself. They seem solely focussed on sex and ignore the emotions involved. I think of myself as very straight as I've never felt anything remotely close to romantic love for a woman, but because I wouldn't shy away from sex with a woman if the rest of the sexual situation called for it, (and I would probably enjoy it), then I fall somewhere in the middle of some of the most popular sexual scales. I feel misrepresented by them.
Furthermore, I think it doesn't help lesbian and gay people truly explain who they are to outsiders if they're getting categorized solely by sexual activities. Yes it's your sexual identity, but most of us call love as more than just sex, so being gay or straight is about more than just sex too.

this is honestly really really well-said. thank you.

[qqwref]

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Seriously though, have you fallen in love or felt a deep connection or desire that involves you wanting to touch them (not necessarily sexually, just wanting to touch them) because it does or you think it would feel nice, with a woman? Now answer the same question but replace woman with man.

If you said yes to both those, you're bisexual. If you said yes to only one of those, it seems likely you're gay or straight.

welp I'm asexual

[G.S.M]

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I kick goddamn doors down with my dick

this whelp better not get in my way

[devonin]

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If you said yes to both those, you're bisexual. If you said yes to only one of those, it seems likely you're gay or straight.

Hooray gender binary as applied to sexual preference!