Would you rather your daughter be a "tomboy" or your son be a "sissy".

[EnR]

Re: Would you rather your daughter be a "tomboy" or your son be a "sissy".

I'd rather have a tomboy than a bitty girl, and a feminine guy than a macho douche-bag. If somebody is being true to themselves, and not just conforming to social norms (and I hate these social norms, as in the personalities), I'll probably get along with them.

I'm basically same way here, I'd rather a feminine guy(not gay, but in touch with his feminine side) than some guy who thinks he's king **** and owns the place.

There's some chick at our school who went from dressing up girl, then started wearing black makeup and clothes and now she wears a hat backwards and huge sweaters with baggy ass jeans, she basically follows any group that accepts her and it's hilarious. She asked my GF if she wanted to go to a "screamo" concert but really it was a metal concert, she just has no idea about what trend she's following.

[fido123]

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I don't think that's a tomboy rather than a girl trying to be "A HARDCOAR INDIVIDUAL"

[kmay]

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umm I was a sissy boy... not exactly by choice because I didn't exactly have a Dad. It was really hard growing up. I'd definitely pick the tomboy.

[Kage06]

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I'm not exactly masculine as in the stereotypical bloke, and I'm not girly either, but I'm not your average typical guy, and I think that's a good thing.

It is true that a tomboy would be more accepted in this society.

It really depends how you are brought up. As Kmay says, it depends who has raised you as well. You may grow to be different because of that.
If you have more sisters, as a boy growing up, you are going to learn ways different to how a guy/girl would living with the same sex from a young age, with both parents supporting them.

A lot develops and fast whilst you are young. A lot of what happens when you are young grows up with you, and stays with you.

I don't like football, and don't really watch any sport, but take part in some sports. Was this because I was brought up in a house where no one likes football, or doing much sport in general? Could very well be. Was it my choice? No, because it was never something I was interested in and never made the choice whether I would like it or not. It just happened that way.

I think some parents are scared their children are going to be gay, when it wouldn't change their overall sexuality traits.
Maybe gay girls are more accepted than gay guys as well in truth.

It could go back as far as when we first arrived on this earth. I doubt it would have seemed weird if a women was a lot more masculine in nature to be more protective to their families, etc

I like dancing games, like DDR/ITG and play them a lot. Does this make me "girly?" Some people would indeed say so (I've had so many people give me a weird look because a guys on the machines), and automatically think I'm gay because of it.
Do I care? No, because I know who I am inside

Sorry, I may have ranted on a bit

[Vendetta21]

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I would rather my daughter be a tomboy because that means she's actively rebelling against being defined in a way that she doesn't want to be defined. But I wouldn't mind a son who was a sissy because it means that despite what everyone tells him to do he calmly just does his own thing.

[nois-or-e]

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My daughter hates playing with doll, but loves painting her nails, doing her hair. . .

Being yourself is fine regardless of the social norms and media bull****.

Better than being a whiny crybag, lol.

[wolf pry]

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i would probebly have a daughter thats a tomboy

[Queen_Darcy]

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Well of course, when a girl explores what boys do (sports, drinking etc) it's perfectly fine, but not the other way around without being labelled.

[L_eMo_N]

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I really don't think it's a good thing to even think about "how" you want your child to be. I'd love my child just the same no matter how they turn out.

[Rubin0]

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I was asking it more on hypothetical than a literal level. I was just trying to provoke some thoughts on the perception of gender in our society....it really had nothing to do with people's children.

[brothaice]

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Literal answer: Operant Conditioning.

More relevant answer:
Eh its hard to say because those are the only two choices out of an infinite number of possibilities. But I will say I will let my child make their own choices and they will learn from that and I will love them no matter what.

I guess the thread should be renamed: "do you want to be a supporting parent or a dick?"

[Rubin0]

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I agree about being a dick or not...but adults are subject to operant conditioning as well....and it starts when they first pick up that Barbie doll or fire truck. This behavior and the reinforcement they receive for their behavior carries over into what they expect from their children. While I feel sorry for the kids with douche bag homophobic parents, I do believe people are a product of their environment.

[Mulie]

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Cases where the children are conditioned into behaving that way aren't exactly the norm; nor where they do it as a form of rebellion (inherently impermanent method)... They're instead perpetuated by observational learning, if anything; both the engagement in that behaviour and the negativity surrounding it.

The general image of homosexual behaviour is stereotypical. Masculine women are expected to engage in physical activity, and to be proactive and capable. Such behaviours have positive connotations that are easily graspable. On the contrary, stereotypical femininity's superfluous and abstract in its reasoning. Hatred's always very natural about its inception, but that doesn't make it logical.

[RobertsonaIsBack]

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this thread is predicated upon a dumb basis and thus every post thus far has been dumb except mine

[Bill Kaulitz]

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I played with barbies and My little Pony when I was younger, but as I grew up, I got more and more Tomboyish. So to me, I'd rather have a feminine boy. He can be the girly one, rather then me.