Premaritial Sex

[TheRapingDragon]

Re: Premaritial Sex

Your right no ceramony needed, no paper needed marrage[/color] shouldn't be some slip of paper say something like: You married untill a divorce is done, or somthing like that but i do think that there should still be a line somwhere on saying i love you. most break ups where this line has been said are VARY nasty or somthing along those lines. there is also some one in the radio bussness who constantly mocks, argues and just is a total jerk on this and here is a link to his web site if you'd like to take a look.

Can I please direct you to the rules of this section:

3. Please, use spellcheck, or atleast form sentences that make sense. Pretend that you are writing an Essay for class.

This is the internet, you have a dictionary and everything at hand so use them.

Also, saying I love you is purely based on emotions. If you love someone then you will know, and if you know then you will tell them when you feel the time is right, marriage shouldn't even be part of the sentence.

[VampyressKyttie]

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I didn't give you **** for having sex at 17, I pointed out that you said "I was going to wait, but then I didn't, and I regret not waiting, but then utterly failed to wait yet again with someone else"

I didn't fail the second time I knew I wasn't gonna wait until I was married because Shayne and I are not going to get married until after I am done with college because of the financial aid I am on, I will lose it if I get married. I knew that I was not going to wait 5+ years to have sex with Shayne but I did wait until we had been together for awhile, we were and still are in love, and the time felt right. I do not regret having sex with Shayne at all, we do it quite frequently and we don't do it just for the fun factor we have sex because we enjoy being close with eachother and that connection we have. There is nothing wrong with being in a long term relationship, being in love, and making love, so you can stfu now thanks you.

[Pikachu655]

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Can I please direct you to the rules of this section:



This is the internet, you have a dictionary and everything at hand so use them.

Also, saying I love you is purely based on emotions. If you love someone then you will know, and if you know then you will tell them when you feel the time is right, marriage shouldn't even be part of the sentence.

Internet, reasorces WHO GIVES A S***! people make mistakes! and also not every one follows the rules in fact if i could i'd bet 50,000 credits that you broke the rules at least once. (Note: the bet would include any other accounts that you have previously had.) I can't accualy issue this bet becuase i don't sit on the internet all day.

[TheRapingDragon]

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Internet, reasorces WHO GIVES A S***! people make mistakes! and also not every one follows the rules in fact if i could i'd bet 50,000 credits that you broke the rules at least once. (Note: the bet would include any other accounts that you have previously had.) I can't accualy issue this bet becuase i don't sit on the internet all day.

Stop trying to flame and get on topic. In the critical thinking most people care about you using resources such as a dictionary as it means they can understand your posts. This is CRITICAL THINKING. Read those words carefully. Anywhere else your posts would be fine but this is supposed to be of a higher level of intelligence.

This does not involve me, I am trying to be fair with you here and tell you that you are breaking the rules so that perhaps you will change instead of ending up banned. Also, life card is invalid here, sorry.

Back on topic now, honestly.

VampyressKyttie - He wasn't attacking you. It's just the whole thing of "a fault for the first time is a mistake, but a fault for the second time is a failure." If you don't want to wait until marriage (pretty evident) then don't and continue not. He was just asking (in a roundabout way) why you broke your belief for a second time. You've explained it though so no worries.

[devonin]

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VampyressKyttie - He wasn't attacking you. It's just the whole thing of "a fault for the first time is a mistake, but a fault for the second time is a failure." If you don't want to wait until marriage (pretty evident) then don't and continue not. He was just asking (in a roundabout way) why you broke your belief for a second time. You've explained it though so no worries.

I was also trying to point out that she said she had sex with the first guy "Because she thought they were in love" and later regretted it because, in hindsight, they actually weren't, but -this- time "She knows they are in love" when "knows" is really just the present tense of "Thought" and that for all she can actually say now, two years from now she may continue regretting this one as well.

My point was trying to be "I'm going to wait until I'm married because it is the right thing to do....unless someone comes along and I -really- want to" isn't an exceptionally strong reason.

[VampyressKyttie]

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Sorry I took it so personally it's just that do not consider Shayne and I to be a failure or mistake in any way.

What I have with Shayne is nothing like what I had with Jeff. I was in love with Jeff in the beginning but then he became abusive and I wasn't in love with the person that he had become. I always hoped that he would change but he didn't. I had sex with him after he became abusive and I was unhappy but I thought it might help in some way, I see that the logic behind that was dumb and imature.

With Shayne I know that I am in love because even after almost two years I still get butterflies in my stomach when he does something romantic. We truly care for eachother, he never hurts me on purpose and we talk through are problems because we truly want to make this last. I was scared at first that having sex with Shayne might hurt our relationship but it only made it stronger, I'm sharing myself with the one I love. When the time came and I felt ready he asked me a few times if I was sure and I reassured him that I felt it was the right time. When making love with Shayne I can feel the difference between sex with him and sex with Jeff in my heart. I don't feel like I'm being used or anything I just feel close to Shayne and loved.

I wanted to wait until I was married because I was raised that way but when I got older I realised that waiting until marriage wasn't right for me. I do not regret having sex with Shayne at all and even if him and I break up I will never see him as a mistake because of the love that we have shared. I really don't know how else to explain it but until you have had the experience of being in deep love and making love you can't possibly know how it feels.

[devonin]

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I'm only pointing out that everyone -always- feels like they are in such deep love that nobody else can possibly understand how unique and pure and true it is...at the time.

[x-Thief]

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As long as you're mature and intellegent about it, and you use the proper protection, premaritial sex should not really be an issue. I think that sex and marriage are two completely separate things and they should be treated as such.

In a way, if you're waiting to be married before you have sex, then sex becomes a bit of the motivation to get married. If you chose to abstain from sex until marriage, then sex can become a bit of a reason to look forward to marriage. In a way, I that its downgrading the level of commitment.

Think of it this way,

If you have sex with someone and they end up not being the person you really want to spend your life with, (and you used protection and didn't contract and STD or get pregnant) then all you're left with is some regret.

However, if you marry someone and then they end up being someone you don't want to spend the rest of your life with, you could end up with a bit more trouble than just regret, with financial issues and such.

I do think that if you choose to have sex it should be with someone that you love, and trust. You should at least -try- to have it be someone you want to spend the rest of your life with, but it shouldn't be held on the same level as marriage.



And as far as waiting until a government assigned age to have sex...

You're "ready" to go into the military in the US, be trained, armed and sent out to kill people for three full years before you are "ready" to drink a beer.

I think that says it all.

[Snapps]

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idk just dont be stupid and it should be ok

[ZZ_Haruhi4Lyfe420DBLSetup]

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I made what I consider to be a perfectly reasonable and thought-out decision to have sex for the first time when I was 14. I don't regret it, I'm not ashamed of it, and I -certainly- don't think I was too young or immature to make the decision.

you have a chapstick dick and your gf had mosquito bite titties

[VampyressKyttie]

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you have a chapstick dick and your gf had mosquito bite titties

That is a little uncalled for in this thread.

[maerinlily]

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in my opinion, i think that its . . . a bit hard to wait for the "right person" to find you. anyway, i think that people should not be bound by religion. people are people. they can do whatever they want, with the exception of flying. don't ask. lol. anyway, i believe that religion is just a twisted version of people's beliefs, meaning to delude people from reality. there are many questions to religion. such as "does the bible actually record real events?" and "is religion a good thing?" i do not think that people should live their lives with religion. i believe that, like society, religion has failed this planet. i also think that half of the technology we have stinks and ruins our perspective on real-life things. anyway, back on topic. if people want to make love, then go right ahead, if that's what they want to do, then who's stopping them? and if they are bound by religion, that's okay. . . but they should learn that religion has flaws, just like evryone and everything else. so make a good decision every once in a while. okay?

[GuidoHunter]

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"Society has failed this planet"?

That's a pretty broad statement, and I'm going to have to ask you to clarify.

--Guido

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[purebloodtexan]

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In addition to that, you need to be a bit open-minded, particularly when it comes to religion. Anyone in CT might have religious beliefs, but they don't bring it into the conversation due to the fact that it causes arguments.

[ashleychauntel]

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In addition to that, you need to be a bit open-minded, particularly when it comes to religion. Anyone in CT might have religious beliefs, but they don't bring it into the conversation due to the fact that it causes arguments.

I think religion causes more arguments in this world than just about anything else - especially when people get into religious discussions on the internet. People can be pretty ruthless in the cyber world, so yes, keeping it out of here, especially the CT thread is ideal for sure.