what is your opinion of teenage/children dating

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Dating ultimately is searching out a potential spouse, and teenagers are certainly not mature enough to be doing that in a very realistic manner.

However, dating isn't the easiest and most intuitive thing in the world. Teenage dating is more just "practice" for when you really start to seriously consider permanent relationships.

--Guido

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I was dating before my teens, I started having sex barely into my teens, and overall I find that while looking back, one almost always finds their early relationships (which at the time you are convinced are true and pure love) to be more than a little immature and silly.

Nevertheless, many young teens are perfectly capable of starting to form romantic relationships, and doing so in a relatively risk free environment (ie. free of binding ties like marriage, or especially stringent expectations from either side) is a valuable way to come to understand your own goals and desires for life.

Your claim that dating is pointless unless the intention is to wed is one that i strongly disagree with. If you only ever got into a relationship intending to marry that person, I really don't think you are apt to have especially successful relationships.

Rather than say that we aren't mature enough to decide to become a part of someone else's life, I would say that it is only through slowly involving yourself in the lives of others can you come to understand whose life you want to become a part of forever.

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yes but what does practicing bad habits do? besides reinforcing the bad habits.

say if a kid never developed proper manners because he had only ever ate with the skills he learned from other kids, it would be a disaster... and very difficult for him to learn those skills. but if the kid learns from an adult he may be better behaved...

so what im saying is that to learn the skill you need, you first have to find someone with those skills.

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So...kids shouldn't date or have relationships because parents can't be bothered to raise their kids to understand proper behavior?

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well it not truly risk free, you can have a kid, you can get a disease, you can set the wrong things as prioity's.

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Which is why I specified which risks I was referring to. However, you can practice safe sex that is exactly as safe at that age as it is any any future age.

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well it may have been a poor example but what i meant is that is they learn those skills from someone that doesn't have those skill the will just be enforcing poor habits.

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It, uh, gives him the experience to understand that bad habits aren't fruitful and that he should reform his ways so that he develops good habits instead.

Your analogy doesn't really work here because with dating there is ALWAYS a form of feedback (you can't date by yourself). The success or failure of the relationship is reflected in the actions and behavior of the partner. If you do something and totally screw up, the girl will leave you and you'll learn to never screw up like that again.

--Guido

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well are teens and kids truly capable of making that kind of mature important decisions?

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They don't have to. Teenage dating is a learning process, and I bet any teen that engages in it is not planning to marry his or her significant other.

--Guido

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Ok your turn greek make him prove his point yet another time...if you haven't figured him out yet. Also to contribute to this thread I think teen dating is ok as long as you know what you're getting into. Some good ways to make it work out is getting to know them before you start a relationship.

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The thread should have ended there. Dating in middle/high school is either about practicing for future, possibly long-term relationships, or about the guy wanting to get laid.

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that is my point. why are they dating... i want to know the reasons behind it.

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For a second there, I thought you were talking about teenagers dating children.