are ideas such as "respect" or "being nice" mutually understood, or are they vague?

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people fucking suck and no one deserves any form of intrinsic respect

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respectable position

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I think the lines between respecting and being nice are often tangled together, even though it's possible to be respectful without necessarily being nice, and vice versa.

The issue as a whole is that respect and niceness are both subjective and open for interpretation, and a good intentioned comment or action could lead to someone actually feeling disrespected or let down, or sometimes being respectful requires some un-niceness, which can be interpreted as disrespect.

I think naturally, whether right or not, being nice helps people get the idea that you're being respectful, as long as it doesnt dip into condescension... I also think theres natural bias integrated with niceness and respect, due to anything such as ideals or affiliations or even how someone is regarded, that clouds opinions on where the lines are drawn for these topics.

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I think respect is earned but niceness/politeness should be an expectation until there is a good reason for the contrary

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Imo, a simple form of respect should be given to anyone, and whether or not it gets more reformed or lost is up to the person being given that respect.

Respect in my thoughts is to be straight with one another and to not have selfish use of someone. Being respectful isn't always nice, especially when you have to put a friend in their place. "Being nice" is like "have your friends back, even if they're wrong" and i don't agree with that.

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I also see a difference between being respectful and respecting someone/something

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I dont think respect is earned personally, I feel everyone deserves a default level of respect, and then it can be more or less depending on how they are

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here is a discussion where there is widespread disagreement over what is nice/respectful:

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i mean, it depends on the situation lol, no one who would abuse a child whos mind isnt fully developed deserves respect lel, now there could be an argument made for 14 being mentally developed enough but lets be real its really not

Search up some guy named Ian Watkins from a band named lost prophets, when ur found out to be doing something thats considered morally reprehensible amongst literally every single person with a functioning brain, people aren't going to respect you lol

basically the guy like, was a hardcore pedo to the point where he exploited like, 2 year old babies and shit, in interviews his bandmates said they had no idea it was happening but if they had found out, they would have killed him right there on the spot, so....

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"respect" and "being nice" is generally vague.

Direct people will tend to just straight out say the truth.
Indirect people may just tell you half truths in hope you get the idea and figure it out.

The former may appear like they're more harsh/not sensible.
The latter may appear like they're holding back intentions or being confusing.

There's probably other types of people, but I believe they can be classified in the above 2 groups.

If you're looking for a middle ground that would be ideal, I'd suggest looking up affirmative statements and to potentially try to integrate that your "arsenal" of ways to talk to others if you didn't already.
Definition: The term "affirmative" is a synonym of the term "positive." It indicates an attitude of acceptance or approval toward a previously expressed statement or idea. An affirmative response is sometimes referred to as an agreement.

So, 3 key elements that comes in mind:

- Talk about the topic, not the person.
- Maintain agreement
- Stay constructive

Maintaining agreement can be particularly difficult when you disagree with someone because you may feel the urgent need to correct them.
This is where communication tend to break.
The trick is to take the controversial statement that appears wrong to you and to test it out with your ideas to see what the other side has to say about it.

If you're having a conversation with someone doing this, I believe it's unlikely something goes wrong.

tl;dr: I think people who doesn't communicate with affirmative statements are likely to run into issues sooner or later with someone who doesn't see things the same way they do.

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Nice and respect aren't the same thing. You can't respect someone without there being a reason for you to. You can be kind to that person and kind is pretty universally known. Respect is appreciating a quality a person has or something like that. Just because someone didn't take what you said or did as nice, doesn't mean it wasn't respectful or something like that. Im dumb don't listen to me

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Does it matter for how people should be treated ?

I think how people feel about each others and how to communicate are two very different topics.

I just don't see a way to be practical about "being nice" and "respect" due to these words having multiple interpretations. So, it makes more sense to me to just optimize how to approach communication overall.

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People should be treated with respect as a human and as politely as a situation sees fit in my mind, that's how I was raised
I think it does matter because some people think you have to be nice to people, or some people think that everyone deserves respect. Everyone deserves to be respected and treated nicely, not necessarily meaning that you have to respect and fit the arbitrary definition of niceness

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treat people with respect to their face, shit talk behind their back, thats the way to live by