Why is the Idea of Adults Expecting Others to be Mature so Irritating to Me?

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9/10 times, if a teacher says, "I'm not here to babysit you. You should have read the assigned material at home."

It's because they fucking told you to read the assigned material at home.

and you didn't

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It's like, if you say, "I read the assigned material and I have some questions about understanding it"

that's cool

if you're one of those assholes who is like "lol I didnt read it what did it say" then yeah the teacher isn't going to give you a second thought and you probably deserve it

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Most of the time, if a teacher says something like that, it's because your question is answered explicitly in the text/homework/whatever, implying that you didn't actually go through the motions.

Teachers (generally) have a lot on their plates. Lots of students to handle, lots of parents to deal with, etc. They aren't going to want to go out of their way to answer your questions if you aren't willing to do the work yourself.

Of course, some teachers are assholes and will shoot down good questions regardless, so it depends.

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And funnily enough, office hours are some of the most useful hours you can take advantage of -- and so few do.

I think some (most?) people think of it as like "Fuck, that's like having MORE class?! I already spend so much time in lectures, doing homework, studying, etc" and don't bother. Joke's on them, though: usually the insight you gain from the office hours can help you get everything done much more quickly/accurately because you are able to get some one-on-one time that simply isn't possible in a lecture setting.

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a 16yo bitched at me for being not handling a situation properly because I'm an adult. I'm 18, I'm not used to this yet. Just because you've reached your 6571st day on this planet doesn't mean you magically turn into a majestic creature that knows right from wrong, can do anything right, and will say the right things. (Even though I'm not denying I still need to grow up lots)

Anyway, point is, it's not just adults expecting you to act like an adult, it's everyone. Once you become an adult the gloves come off and people start expecting you to do things right since you're not a child anymore.

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I'm sorry, my example of a teacher's expectations for students was probably a bad example. Students are supposed to read the assigned material to learn what the teacher is talking about in class.

What I'm irritated about is when adults expect other people to act in the way they believe to be mature, and they openly attack someone's self-esteem if he or she doesn't follow those unspoken rules. I believe everyone has their own right to act however they would like to act, provided the country's laws are not broken. I don't appreciate when people judge others who don't act how those people want them to act.

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either 6566 or 6567 depending on the year you were born.

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You say, "...knows right from wrong, can do anything right, and will say the right things." I believe that there is no right and wrong other than the law of the country you live in. What's morally right and wrong is up to each person's own opinions.

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I think it's more of a trial by fire sort of thing. The more you hear these things you can either buckle under the weight of the accusations, or you can adapt and become stronger. Usually the more responsible people will become stronger (which in turn comes bigger accusations when you fail to be strong) and go on to be more successful.

IMO it's just a part of life you have to accept. People are always going to tell you that you fucked up. You're just going to have to learn to be the person who tells yourself that you did something good when you do it.
Whatever doesn't kill you...

This is largely true, however that doesn't mean that you aren't living in a society. Unless you can figure out how to live completely alone, you will never escape the moral decisions that are placed upon you.

I'm having a hard time trying to say this.

If your friend told you to jump off a bridge, would you? If the law told you to, would you? There is no absolute rule of what is right and wrong. Sometimes you have to choose which is best. Sometimes it's hard, sometimes it's easy. Mistakes are going to be made, but what matters in the end is how you fix them.

Also opinions can be wrong. That's probably mostly why I'm having a hard time writing this properly.

leap years lel

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It's legal to wear one's pants below the normal belt line thereby exposing one's undergarments (boxers/briefs/thongs etc.), however this behaviour is classified as immature and frowned upon by adults. I'm immature as hell for a lot of things, but it's hard not to pass judgement on some behaviours when you see them. If this whole maturity debate is driven by opinion, then there isn't a right or wrong answer for what you're looking for. Adults expecting others to be mature is irritating to you because in your opinion, immature behaviours should not be scrutinized. These adults aren't wrong in their judgements and neither are you in being irritated by it

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Man, I aint growin up for anybody fuck that


But in all seriousness, there are times in life where you have no choice BUT to be a grown up otherwise you'll look like an idiot. At the same time, you can be the most important person in the world and relate more to a 12 year old rather than someone your own age.

My point is, know to be a grown up about certain situations and know when being so serious isn't necessary. As for me, fuck being a grown up sometimes, it sucks.

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It's something that should be enforced until the person targeted become independant. After that point, it doesn't matter nearly as much.

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^
thanks, this is what I meant.

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Grow up.