So me and my girlfriend are in a fight...

**Emo_Saur_** · 11-3-2010, 01:53 PM

Re: So me and my girlfriend are in a fight...

Originally posted by MrRubix

From what I am gathering, EnR and his girlfriend are broken up, so she's really an ex-girlfriend at this point.

He shows up at her school with a card + flowers and she flips on the bitchmode.

Mom threatens to call the cops because she apparently knows they're broken up and she doesn't want EnR dating her daughter (?).

So basically everyone in that girl's family is bitching out EnR.

I say move on and find someone who's on the same wavelength. Recoup whatever finances you can but don't steal. If you can't recoup anything, cut your losses and move on.

All of this, I think you've hit it right on.

**EnR** · 11-3-2010, 01:55 PM

Re: So me and my girlfriend are in a fight...

Originally posted by Izzy

Agreed, this story makes no sense to me.

We were in an arguement about being together, wether or not we stay together and she told me to not talk to her, see her or text her unless she texts me first, so I do this for the first 2 days and then today decide to buy her flowers and a panda card(favorite animal) and that's when she said she didn't want any gifts from me and yea thats when this happened.

**MrRubix** · 11-3-2010, 01:57 PM

Re: So me and my girlfriend are in a fight...

Originally posted by EnR

We were in an arguement about being together, wether or not we stay together and she told me to not talk to her, see her or text her unless she texts me first, so I do this for the first 2 days and then today decide to buy her flowers and a panda card(favorite animal) and that's when she said she didn't want any gifts from me and yea thats when this happened.

At your age, this is likely code for "I'm into someone else -- if this new venture doesn't work out, I'll call you back given that you implicitly agree to be my fallback," and therefore any attempt to put yourself back on the forefront is going to result in a lot of clashing.

**EnR** · 11-3-2010, 01:57 PM

Re: So me and my girlfriend are in a fight...

She'll end up missing me because her turtle, rabbit, hamster and fish are all bought from me, she also has tons of my old clothes as pj's, my ring, tons of panda teddy bears and the dress she wore at my prom.

I'll let her keep everything, I've spent more on taking her out then everything else I've gotten her.

**Emo_Saur_** · 11-3-2010, 01:58 PM

Re: So me and my girlfriend are in a fight...

So, in her eyes you guys are over..

Edit: Man, I'm sorry but buying all that for a female just isn't worth. At least it's not until you're going to ask her to marry you, or are already married. If she was in it for the money, she wouldn't be doing this though. So, all I can say is leave it alone, there is no need to get all bent out of shape over ONE female. Two months, two weeks, two decades, two days, two years, there will always be a female to rebound on.

**Izzy** · 11-3-2010, 01:59 PM

Re: So me and my girlfriend are in a fight...

Oh that makes more sense now. Sounds like she is uncomfortable with her feelings and decides to rage instead of trying to think about it. Kind of like tsundere in anime except being a bitch.

**MrRubix** · 11-3-2010, 02:01 PM

Re: So me and my girlfriend are in a fight...

Originally posted by EnR

She'll end up missing me because her turtle, rabbit, hamster and fish are all bought from me, she also has tons of my old clothes as pj's, my ring, tons of panda teddy bears and the dress she wore at my prom.

I'll let her keep everything, I've spent more on taking her out then everything else I've gotten her.

If you think she'll miss you, then let her miss you.

The worst thing you can do is keep contacting her and pushing her / guilting her with nice gestures (this may not be your intent, but in those situations, it usually harms more than helps).

If you want things to work out with her, just back off -- no contact at all whatsoever -- and let her come to you when/if she's ready. If she does, great. If not, then you know it wasn't going to work.

**EnR** · 11-3-2010, 02:02 PM

Re: So me and my girlfriend are in a fight...

Originally posted by Izzy

Oh that makes more sense now. Sounds like she is uncomfortable with her feelings and decides to rage instead of trying to think about it. Kind of like tsundere in anime except being a bitch.

She never ever ever talks about feelings, or lets me explain, she acts immature and ignorant when it comes to talking about our issues and they never get worked out, that's why she gets stressed.

Anyways, this is making me feel better just talking about it, my moms helping me out too. Thanks guys.

**Emo_Saur_** · 11-3-2010, 02:04 PM

Re: So me and my girlfriend are in a fight...

She's immature, get out of the relationship.

**Mulie** · 11-3-2010, 02:05 PM

Re: So me and my girlfriend are in a fight...

This calls for methodical contemplation of why she was ever objectively important to you in the first place. Among your list of reasons you'll undoubtedly find it was all for risk; because she was someone, and someone was better than no one, or something along those lines. Follow with careful consideration of why she ever cared about you.

If you can't do this, chances are she wouldn't be able to either. If neither of you can think this through without being distracted why ever bother taking a break? Rubix is right.

**EnR** · 11-3-2010, 02:05 PM

Re: So me and my girlfriend are in a fight...

Originally posted by MrRubix

If you think she'll miss you, then let her miss you.

If you want things to work out with her, just back off -- no contact at all whatsoever -- and let her come to you when/if she's ready. If she does, great. If not, then you know it wasn't going to work.

This is my plan, I'm just going to not talk to her at all, if she wants to talk to me she can, if she moves on the **** her and I'll move on. I did everything for her, she doesn't understand that. I would take her to the clinic when she gets sick, pick her up when she missed the bus for her coop, **** like that. I'm always first to call, when he hamster died, or her first rabbit she called me, her dads never home so I'm there to bring her home sometimes(he pays me though)

Atleast I can get my Honda S2000 now and not worry about bringing all her damn bags.

**Shikari** · 11-3-2010, 02:06 PM

Re: So me and my girlfriend are in a fight...

You know, if she's being such a bitch, doesn't ever talk about feelings, or as a girlfriend, but accepts your gifts... What are you doing with her? Just askin'

**EnR** · 11-3-2010, 02:07 PM

Re: So me and my girlfriend are in a fight...

Originally posted by Shikari

You know, if she's being such a bitch, doesn't ever talk about feelings, or as a girlfriend, but accepts your gifts... What are you doing with her? Just askin'

Because we've had tons of good times together and she makes me smile every day. I'm never been so happy in my life, we jsut have the occasional arguement and we'll end up overreacting.

**EnR** · 11-3-2010, 02:09 PM

Re: So me and my girlfriend are in a fight...

Anyways mom offered to buy me Rock Band 3 to get my mind of things haha, so brb going shopping.

**Mulie** · 11-3-2010, 02:11 PM

Re: So me and my girlfriend are in a fight...

Pushing aside your fallacious system of logic so that you may face it another day is fine too.

So me and my girlfriend are in a fight...

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