Old 03-29-2013, 07:49 PM   #61
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Old 03-29-2013, 07:59 PM   #62
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so when I say that your mines are so gay ... it's actually a compliment ?? jajaj

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You just have different tastes
I'm into boobZ you are into other thingZ
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dunn0 if u care xd but w/E

one day u gotta tell it to your parents tho
it's one fight in your life u gotta lead
I wish u luck in this fight

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Old 03-29-2013, 08:08 PM   #63
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a brief summary of my opinion on the whole thing:

i used to be a really devout christian and a huge homophobe (i don't like that word, i'm not scared of homosexuals xddd), but my own maturation changed my mind. i see it this way: any form of discrimination against a human being based on something they cannot control is utterly and absolutely evil. to me, it all goes under the same category: racial discrimination, sexual orientation discrimination, discrimination against those with disabilities, etc. also, as far as religion goes: hate the sin, not the person. i don't believe homosexuality is a sin, but for those who do, it goes against the preachings of the Bible which say to love your neighbor as yourself. that includes your homosexual neighbors.

having gotten that off my chest, i fully support you, and if you ever need to talk to someone, i'm always here

p.s. my friend Tori (who you don't know but I informed of this situation) supports you too. she told me to tell you

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Old 03-29-2013, 08:19 PM   #64
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moches, that is some fantastic piece of news. Considering the amount of personal work it must have taken you only to post this thread, I think half the battle is won. I mean, jeez. You realized it at 17 years old; props. Sure, your parents are conservative as fuc and might be offended, but hell, that is who you are, and you're doing yourself a favor by realizing it. In the long run, you will feel better, and I hope you'll keep your head held high in the process.
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My first thought is that I know his sexuality is none of my business but I'm wondering if there is anything a friend can do to go about discussing it in a helpful/supportive way without offending the friend.
I would suggest basically showing that if he does come out you will be supportive, and nothing would change for the worse between you. You could do something like talk or post (on facebook etc.) about how you are in favor of gays being able to marry and having other rights everyone else has. You could even say (privately ofc) something like "I just want you to know, you're a really good friend of mine, and that wouldn't change at all if it turned out you were gay or bi." Don't push the point or say it over and over, just try to be clear that if he did decide to tell people he was gay/bi you wouldn't have any problem with it.
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Old 03-29-2013, 09:19 PM   #66
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Old 03-29-2013, 09:24 PM   #67
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Sometimes people actually change their stance on these issues when their child comes out. They're under the impression that homosexuality is wrong, evil, etc, and no homosexual could actually be a good person. Then they find out their child, whom they are extremely proud of and love, is homosexual, and may re-evaluate their position on it. I'm not saying that's how it always works, but this is the case sometimes.
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Old 03-29-2013, 10:49 PM   #68
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wow this is such a nice thread look at all of you guys

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Old 03-29-2013, 11:35 PM   #69
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It's almost like there are grown people on this site. :')

I'd love to make a lengthy post in response to a few people but I'm posting from my phone which makes that rather difficult. Balls.
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Old 03-29-2013, 11:43 PM   #70
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Good on ya man

In terms of coming out to your parents, that's a touch-and-go situation really. You could always use probes to see how they react as people have already mentioned; the nerve-wracking part is that moment where you straight up say it. I'm not personally gay so I can't understand completely, but that sounds like a really hard thing to do.

On a related note, I have a friend who I have thought might be bisexual or gay for quite some time (there's been a number of signs that I don't need to talk about in detail here). My first thought is that I know his sexuality is none of my business but I'm wondering if there is anything a friend can do to go about discussing it in a helpful/supportive way without offending the friend.
you got to ease the topic into some conversation and let it go from there

dynam0: man friend that was an intense sm session right?
friend: haha yeah you really nailed those patterns
dynam0: yeah man kind of like how gay dudes nail other gay dudes in the ass!
friend: hey bro can i tell you something
dynam0 yeah man whats up?
friend: hypothetically speaking would you care if i was bisexual or maybe even gay?
dynam0: bro we shower together after sm sessions all the time and i'll still shower with you even if you are gay or w/e thats your thing just dont try to ram my ass HAHAHA
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Old 03-29-2013, 11:45 PM   #71
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Basically everyone has already said what I wanted to say but even though I don't think we talked hardly at all on here, I am extremely proud of you and I really hope everything works out for the best.

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wow this is such a nice thread look at all of you guys

so proud (':
this is like the fourth or fifth post of yours where i felt like we think pretty similarly
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Old 03-29-2013, 11:59 PM   #74
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Luckily I've had a some-what easy going coming out, I'd suppose. Although my mom was pretty disappointed at first (and my dad pretty much disowned me), it's just one of those things they soon to accept over time. At the end of the day, you're still their son and they'll grow to love/accept you the way you are.

Good luck and I hope everything goes a-ok!
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Everyone who I know that has come out has said they did it slowly, just telling people who they trust, then telling more people, and more. And you go on until you get a reaction that is negative, then maybe you stop until you are more confident and then tell some other people, and go on.
Seems you trust FFR as well as your close friends, so, this is a great start
Above all just be happy with who you are, even if others aren't. You can't control them but you can control you.
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I thought being gay was popular these days.

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I think it's less of a "I want to be gay!" popular and more of a "I want to be paid attention to!" thing. Like not that gay people feel they're suddenly popular because they're gay, it's more those who aren't gay want to say they are just so they can be part of the current controversial debates going on about homosexual rights. So basically, attention whores claim to be gay to be paid attention to, not actual gays feeling that being gay is popular.
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wtf -.-

That's not the case at all. Society is becoming more and more accepting of gays in general so people are less afraid to come out as such without the fear of social exclusion or being smitten from the divine hand of God.
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I would suggest basically showing that if he does come out you will be supportive, and nothing would change for the worse between you. You could do something like talk or post (on facebook etc.) about how you are in favor of gays being able to marry and having other rights everyone else has. You could even say (privately ofc) something like "I just want you to know, you're a really good friend of mine, and that wouldn't change at all if it turned out you were gay or bi." Don't push the point or say it over and over, just try to be clear that if he did decide to tell people he was gay/bi you wouldn't have any problem with it.
Yeah, I think that's the point he's trying to make. If you say something like what you wrote up, he's afraid he might offend the person if it turns out he's not gay. What he's trying to do is get a read on the person without outright commenting about his sexuality. Casually bringing up the gay marriage issues etc and how you're in favor could probably work, but saying "you're a good friend and that won't change if you're gay or not" is just too conspicuous.

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Moches, you are one of the nicest persons i've ever met and something like this does not change my opinion about you at all. It's a shame your parents have such bigoted views (they named you MOSES afterall!), but you should take some time and then go tell them. It's a big step to take and it may be bothersome at first, but it's worth the trouble. I wish you the best~ Hot kisses jajaja

Oh, one thing i'd like to mention (this seems a good thread to say so) is i always had etherosexual fantasies growing up, and i always idealized love of guy + girl, although i have had a pretty intense homosexual experience around 12 years old, and that taught me that i'm bi to an extent - even though i like girls way more than guys, to be honest. Considering oneself "straight" or "gay" pretty much destroys the possibility of having any interaction with the other side, so maybe you should give it some thought Have you had any first-hand experiences yet?
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