[gold stinger]

Just let people do whatever the fuck they want to do behind closed doors, jesus christ. As long as it's not hurting anyone.

The problem with the whole ordeal imo, is that it's a general expectation of respect 'outside of closed doors', to get someone's preferred pronouns correct. Start mis-gendering intentionally because of beliefs, and you're kind of validating yourself as an asshole wanting to stir shit. Same the other way around, they get emotional and defensive from mis-gendering accidentally and all of a sudden, they're the asshole here.

Stuff regarding drag is VERY unfortunate. That is more than just something people enjoy or are more comfortable with, and is sometimes a job.