Relationship Poll

[Poison-]

I've had experience with #2. We were literally best friends, even before the "benefits", and the sex did not change anything.

[dAnceguy117]

well two of those look like misnomers I'm seeing:

1) not-friends having sex
2) friends with benefits
3) a cover used by one or both parties

only one of those is the real thing.

[FoJaR]

Originally Posted by Zageron

Friends with benefits are complex. There are a few different types that I've seen.

1) Someone you wouldn't hang out with otherwise.
2) Friends with extreme sexual urges but no interest in relationship things like dating, dinners out, gifts, etc...
3) A relationship disguised as 'friends with benefits', which both parties figure out eventually.

These types of relationships need to be figured out from day one. If someone approaches you and tells you they want to have sex with you, then don't just say O.K. Ask them why, and what the stipulations are, before you go off to hump-fest.

Source: First hand experience.

nice humble brag mr ladies man

[choof]

brumble hag

[FoJaR]

there is definitely love without sex, and sex without love.

what about old people, a lot of them dont have sex anymore but still love each other.

[FoJaR]

Originally Posted by choof

brumble hag

dude just admit it, we were meant to start a PI firm in the nation's capital

just think of all the congressmen we could bring down

[Litodude]

that would be a start of a beautiful relationship

[FoJaR]

choof, we have litodude's blessing

[FoJaR]

does that mean we get herpes now, or do we have to redeem a coupon somewhere?

[xNiX]

The fuck is wrong with you people? (The ones that said yes)

[dAnceguy117]

thank you for your contribution.

[xNiX]

Originally Posted by dAnceguy117

thank you for your contribution.

Np. But seriously.

[choof]

Originally Posted by xNiX

Np. But seriously.

how about u read the thread and maybe u will learn something

[thesunfan]

the fact that I agree ITT with some people I used to have on ignore scares me somewhat, mainly b/c they constitute most of the argument I agree with.

People have all kinds of different definitions of relationships. There is not one exact example in which everyone lives by. There's obviously popular ones, of course, but asking for "one example" or "what is meant in the OP" is a flawed question.

Point is, some people feel like sex, or, to a certain extent, some kind of romantic behavior involving physical contact is an integral part of a serious relationship. Others don't. Learn to live with those that have a different definition/opinion. Just because they have a different opinion than you does not make them wrong, and it certainly does not indicate that they have mental issues holy shit I can't believe I just read that from someone that isn't snowc or lito /endrant

On a different note, Bridget summed up what I think you should do the most, Geoff. I think that's the best way to approach this situation. Its kinda funny that this thread has veered off of its course, but that you still are getting what you want out of it, I think.

[Dynam0]

Originally Posted by thesunfan

On a different note, Bridget summed up what I think you should do the most, Geoff. I think that's the best way to approach this situation. Its kinda funny that this thread has veered off of its course, but that you still are getting what you want out of it, I think.

Yeah.

Also values.

/thread

[dAnceguy117]

best wishes with everything sexysaxman05, we're all here for you

[Cavernio]

Originally Posted by choof

fear has nothing to do with, inexperience has nothing to do with it, pleasure has nothing to do with it, there is zero interest is that seriously a mindboggling concept

of course it's nothing in comparison to what homosexuals/transsexuals/transgenders deal with but it's still annoying as fuck

Sorry but I AM mindboggled by the idea that pleasure has nothing to do with it. Unless you've got some sort of likely drug-induced brain damage and your whole motivation/drive/pleasure system is screwed up, drive = pleasure for just about everything that exists. The system of seeking pleasure and the system of feeling pleasure, especially at a base level, are very obviously linked. I honestly want you to elaborate choof.

Like, is it that there's no drive just to be with someone else or just no sex drive in general? I'm sure both of those types of people exist and both seem to fit the term "asexual"?

If masturbating is pleasurable, then how can you not be driven to do it? I actually get that previous sentence myself, however it's still tied into overall pleasure though. Personally, I've had times in my life where my sex drive has been higher also lower, and I associate more pleasure from sexual activities when the drive itself has been higher. Like, if I'm just masturbating because I'm bored or I want to sleep and I'm barely mentally sexually aroused, that's just hardly going to be as pleasurable as when I'm super sexually aroused.
That's why I'm saying pleasure has something to do with it, because low sex drive in myself = less pleasure, and in order for me to understand I need to be told how is my experience different from an asexual's in order to understand that person's asexuality.

[TheSaxRunner05]

Originally Posted by thesunfan

the fact that I agree ITT with some people I used to have on ignore scares me somewhat, mainly b/c they constitute most of the argument I agree with.

People have all kinds of different definitions of relationships. There is not one exact example in which everyone lives by. There's obviously popular ones, of course, but asking for "one example" or "what is meant in the OP" is a flawed question.

Point is, some people feel like sex, or, to a certain extent, some kind of romantic behavior involving physical contact is an integral part of a serious relationship. Others don't. Learn to live with those that have a different definition/opinion. Just because they have a different opinion than you does not make them wrong, and it certainly does not indicate that they have mental issues holy shit I can't believe I just read that from someone that isn't snowc or lito /endrant

On a different note, Bridget summed up what I think you should do the most, Geoff. I think that's the best way to approach this situation. Its kinda funny that this thread has veered off of its course, but that you still are getting what you want out of it, I think.

Yea, Silly had a really great comment. On another note, I think this thread has run its course.

[Nyokou]

Of course.

[Tokzic]

For me, emotional intimacy and physical intimacy go hand-in-hand. If I'm emotionally intimate with someone, I can't help but desire physical intimacy with them.

Having physical intimacy without emotional intimacy isn't even possible because I won't have any attraction to someone I feel no emotional intimacy with.