My attempt at a good thread, but not so good it has to be in critical thinking.

Hylian · 01-5-2008, 06:05 AM

They say there is a perfect balance. I'm not so sure XD.

My keyboard randomly stops working as I type this topic :O. Not a good sign.

Anyways!

Have you ever done anything that you regret, but don't wish to change? Something that you would not go back in time to change, but you regret it anyways? Is this even possible? For whatever reason I have been thinking about this all day...and I can't seem to come to a conclusion. I mean, you hear people say they wish they didn't do something all the time. I always wonder if what they are talking about is worth regret.

Can something be worth regret? Death maybe. But you can't regret it when you are dead. So aside from crippling injuries and such, what are some things you could do that you would regret over the fact that you learned something from the experience? Would you rather of had it not happen? But then how do you know it wouldn't just happen later, since if it didn't happen you wouldn't of learned anything from it?

Had to get these random thoughts out of my head >_>.

JustusReyes · 01-5-2008, 06:20 AM

There's a LOT of things that I regret. Some of them are things that I've done that I wish I didn't and some are things that I did NOT do that I wish I had.

I wish I would've tried harder to stay in a relationship with that woman I met when I was 16. I would've had a long term relationship by now.

I wish I would've stopped my mom from smoking cigs so much.

Regret is just a natural way of smacking yourself in the forehead. Helps us learn from our mistakes.

Hylian · 01-5-2008, 06:23 AM

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Originally Posted by JustusReyes

There's a LOT of things that I regret. Some of them are things that I've done that I wish I didn't and some are things that I did NOT do that I wish I had.

I wish I would've tried harder to stay in a relationship with that woman I met when I was 16. I would've had a long term relationship by now.

I wish I would've stopped my mom from smoking cigs so much.

Regret is just a natural way of smacking yourself in the forehead. Helps us learn from our mistakes.

But what about the experiences you get from doing or not doing those things? Don't you think that might sway other important desicions you make later on in life?

And I never thought about regretting something I didn't do, though that makes perfect sense

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JustusReyes · 01-5-2008, 06:30 AM

Well, of course. By coping with all of my regrets I've learned to toughen up. And THAT is what I would not trade for anything.

I do know certain things, however, seem to be more fate than anything, so I don't regret it. If I would've stayed at one school every single year, I wouldn't have met all the friends that I have throughout my life. And most of them I still am friends with them, so I'm grateful for that.

**danny53x** · 01-5-2008, 09:38 AM

I approach your question this way; If I could change the past, I know that I wouldn't be this person here today responding to you. I wouldn't have the friends I know, I wouldn't say the things I say, and I probably would be a totally different person overall. Each individual decision someone makes affects their progressive decisions leading them to a very specific state later in time. I'm glad who I am, therefore I regret nothing.

~HentaiXXX~ · 01-5-2008, 02:48 PM

When you regret something but you don't think you should go back in time to fix it, wouldn't you think it was probably supposed to happen?

drakethelegend · 01-5-2008, 02:54 PM

Regrets are how God reminds us that the choices we make today have consequences.

**tha Guardians** · 01-5-2008, 02:56 PM

Everything I regret, I wish I hadn't done... I've never learned any life lessons, I was just born knowing them. You don't always have to earn wisdom.

Hylian · 01-5-2008, 03:14 PM

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Originally Posted by tha Guardians

Everything I regret, I wish I hadn't done... I've never learned any life lessons, I was just born knowing them. You don't always have to earn wisdom.

Huh? How are you born knowing anything, save breathing?

You learn everything.

killtherockk · 01-5-2008, 03:26 PM

i regret downloading an unknown anti-spyware software now my pc doesn't work like it did -.-

SethSquall · 01-5-2008, 03:37 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by drakethelegend

Regrets are how God reminds us that the choices we make today have consequences.

What?

Lmao I'm not going to bother, there's no point.

Anyway. One thing I regret is getting with this one girl. I'd happily trade all the good memories to get rid of the bad that followed.

It's a floored statement, not everything ever made sense back then to me though anyway.

**andy-o24** · 01-5-2008, 04:52 PM

I regret many things. One thing in particular that only about 10 people know. I honestly wish at times that I could go back and change what words escaped my mouth that day in 4th grade, but I can't. I accept this and move on. Other times though I think back to what kind of a person I am today and think about how that influenced my actions and decissions today.

I will tell you that almost everyone will make a bad decission and regret it. I regret many things I've said and done and wish that I could go back and change those actions. I can't but I still wish. The worst thing that I've ever done, as previously alluded to, I do not wish to change. I have a stronger friendship with the persons I had problems with and have learned to watch what I say.

Overall, regret will happen to the best of people. It's something we all must deal and live with. We will all regret bad decissions for a while but upon furthur consideration change our views on the matter and think of how it helped us. Regret has a funny way of making us a better person.

-o24

Hylian · 01-5-2008, 04:54 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by andy-o24

I regret many things. One thing in particular that only about 10 people know. I honestly wish at times that I could go back and change what words escaped my mouth that day in 4th grade, but I can't. I accept this and move on. Other times though I think back to what kind of a person I am today and think about how that influenced my actions and decissions today.

I will tell you that almost everyone will make a bad decission and regret it. I regret many things I've said and done and wish that I could go back and change those actions. I can't but I still wish. The worst thing that I've ever done, as previously alluded to, I do not wish to change. I have a stronger friendship with the persons I had problems with and have learned to watch what I say.

Overall, regret will happen to the best of people. It's something we all must deal and live with. We will all regret bad decissions for a while but upon furthur consideration change our views on the matter and think of how it helped us. Regret has a funny way of making us a better person.

-o24

Then should we really regret something...if we know it betters us?

**andy-o24** · 01-5-2008, 04:57 PM

I said regret after the stupid decission, betters you after more consideration. Regret isn't something you can easily avoid but it doesn't last forever.

**dore** · 01-5-2008, 05:01 PM

I wouldn't change anything I've done in the past. Sure, I have regrets, but I am quite happy with the person I am today and all of the events of the past-- good, bad, or ugly-- have molded me into the person I am today.

While I don't like the movie, The Butterfly Effect is a good example of why not to change things in the past. Even with good intentions, there are unknown consequences and the more you **** with the past the more you **** up the present.

GamerShadow · 01-5-2008, 05:14 PM

I am one to really beat myself up if I regret something I have done, or something I wasn't able to accomplish. For example, if I don't get a time that I am aiming for in XC/Track, I will be angry/depressed for the next few hours, and I will reflect on what I could have done better and what I did wrong. And that is quite a minor thing. I expect a lot of myself, and unless I achieve and exceed my expectations, I will not be happy. Achievement at the minimum level for me makes me content, but not in a state of joy.

Quite a few of the above posters have mentioned wanting to change a decision that has involved girls/relationships. I'm sure you have different specific reasons, but why do you say that? I am curious to know if the general reasoning matches what I think.

By the way, OP, great job at making this thread one that is not too thought provoking, but one that requires you to jog your memory and use your brain a little bit. I think it is the balance that you are looking for. =)

Finger Fcker · 01-5-2008, 05:45 PM

I thought this when I took my mustang out for a cruise with 3 other friends in the car. I almost killed all of them, stupidly, (though I came the closest to dying). Now I have no car and my insurance skyrocketed. I almost want to say this never happened, but if I leave that regret in my mind, then for future references things could happen for the worse, whether it be a car accident, or whatever. I thought to myself...is it worth the regret?

My answer is yes. It's worth a regret, because you can't predict the future... You can always regret doing something, especially if it's stupid... and at the same time you can look back and learn from your experience. You can always turn a regret into a learning experience, otherwise you wouldn't regret it.

**Kekeb** · 01-5-2008, 05:52 PM

I regret that i stopped playing soccer.
And when I stopped keeping in contact with my best friend that moved.
There isn't much else that I really regret... I haven't lived long.
Although at the same time sometimes you have to learn to let go of something. When i stopped playing soccer i had time for friends and school.
Something i do not regret at all is picking up the sport of aggressive inline. It brought me and another buddy closer together, and I met some new people.

Hylian · 01-5-2008, 06:46 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by GamerShadow

I am one to really beat myself up if I regret something I have done, or something I wasn't able to accomplish. For example, if I don't get a time that I am aiming for in XC/Track, I will be angry/depressed for the next few hours, and I will reflect on what I could have done better and what I did wrong. And that is quite a minor thing. I expect a lot of myself, and unless I achieve and exceed my expectations, I will not be happy. Achievement at the minimum level for me makes me content, but not in a state of joy.

Quite a few of the above posters have mentioned wanting to change a decision that has involved girls/relationships. I'm sure you have different specific reasons, but why do you say that? I am curious to know if the general reasoning matches what I think.

By the way, OP, great job at making this thread one that is not too thought provoking, but one that requires you to jog your memory and use your brain a little bit. I think it is the balance that you are looking for. =)

Thanks

. I felt I had to make up for the horrible thread I made the other day XD.

Syhto · 01-5-2008, 10:05 PM

It used to be that I didn't regret things past a certain point in time, but I've learned to not regret things at all. You can't know what a certain event in your life could have caused you to obtain, or lose. Something can seem completely terrible, with no good side, but I've learned that in most cases that isn't true. I've come to accept that there's most always a silver lining. No matter how far off it may be. I don't use that for comfort purposes, I just see it as a truth. That doesn't mean you can't be sad about something that happened, or that you can't wish it had happened a bit differently. Acceptance comes with time.

Regret is just a natural part of life. But people can change their minds. If it weren't for all of the bad events in my life up to this point, things I used to regret, I wouldn't be with who I am today. I wouldn't be WHO I am today. I can't say that if they hadn't happened I'd be a better person, or a happier person. I'm just saying that I'm not willing to change the past and take that chance.

I'd rather just strive to have a better future.

01-5-2008, 06:05 AM	#1
Hylian FFR Player Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Texas Age: 35 Posts: 314	My attempt at a good thread, but not so good it has to be in critical thinking. They say there is a perfect balance. I'm not so sure XD. My keyboard randomly stops working as I type this topic :O. Not a good sign. Anyways! Have you ever done anything that you regret, but don't wish to change? Something that you would not go back in time to change, but you regret it anyways? Is this even possible? For whatever reason I have been thinking about this all day...and I can't seem to come to a conclusion. I mean, you hear people say they wish they didn't do something all the time. I always wonder if what they are talking about is worth regret. Can something be worth regret? Death maybe. But you can't regret it when you are dead. So aside from crippling injuries and such, what are some things you could do that you would regret over the fact that you learned something from the experience? Would you rather of had it not happen? But then how do you know it wouldn't just happen later, since if it didn't happen you wouldn't of learned anything from it? Had to get these random thoughts out of my head >_>. __________________

01-5-2008, 06:20 AM	#2
JustusReyes FFR Player Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: San Diego, California Posts: 3	Re: My attempt at a good thread, but not so good it has to be in critical thinking. There's a LOT of things that I regret. Some of them are things that I've done that I wish I didn't and some are things that I did NOT do that I wish I had. I wish I would've tried harder to stay in a relationship with that woman I met when I was 16. I would've had a long term relationship by now. I wish I would've stopped my mom from smoking cigs so much. Regret is just a natural way of smacking yourself in the forehead. Helps us learn from our mistakes.

01-5-2008, 06:30 AM	#4
JustusReyes FFR Player Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: San Diego, California Posts: 3	Re: My attempt at a good thread, but not so good it has to be in critical thinking. Well, of course. By coping with all of my regrets I've learned to toughen up. And THAT is what I would not trade for anything. I do know certain things, however, seem to be more fate than anything, so I don't regret it. If I would've stayed at one school every single year, I wouldn't have met all the friends that I have throughout my life. And most of them I still am friends with them, so I'm grateful for that.

01-5-2008, 09:38 AM	#5
danny53x AKA Yotipo Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Henrico, Virginia Age: 32 Posts: 1,008	Re: My attempt at a good thread, but not so good it has to be in critical thinking. I approach your question this way; If I could change the past, I know that I wouldn't be this person here today responding to you. I wouldn't have the friends I know, I wouldn't say the things I say, and I probably would be a totally different person overall. Each individual decision someone makes affects their progressive decisions leading them to a very specific state later in time. I'm glad who I am, therefore I regret nothing. __________________ Last edited by danny53x; 01-5-2008 at 09:40 AM.. Reason: Rewording first sentence

01-5-2008, 02:48 PM	#6
~HentaiXXX~ Banned Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Spalding, Nebraska, USA Age: 31 Posts: 2,955	Re: My attempt at a good thread, but not so good it has to be in critical thinking. When you regret something but you don't think you should go back in time to fix it, wouldn't you think it was probably supposed to happen?

01-5-2008, 02:54 PM	#7
drakethelegend FFR Player Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Denton, TX Posts: 137	Re: My attempt at a good thread, but not so good it has to be in critical thinking. Regrets are how God reminds us that the choices we make today have consequences. __________________ I love philosophy. It's really my Nietzsche.

01-5-2008, 03:26 PM	#10
killtherockk FFR Player Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: right here Age: 32 Posts: 151	Re: My attempt at a good thread, but not so good it has to be in critical thinking. i regret downloading an unknown anti-spyware software now my pc doesn't work like it did -.- __________________

01-5-2008, 05:01 PM	#15
dore caveman pornstar Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: ridin on a unicorn Age: 33 Posts: 6,317	Re: My attempt at a good thread, but not so good it has to be in critical thinking. I wouldn't change anything I've done in the past. Sure, I have regrets, but I am quite happy with the person I am today and all of the events of the past-- good, bad, or ugly-- have molded me into the person I am today. While I don't like the movie, The Butterfly Effect is a good example of why not to change things in the past. Even with good intentions, there are unknown consequences and the more you ** with the past the more you ** up the present. __________________ http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IREnpHco9mw

01-5-2008, 05:14 PM	#16
GamerShadow FFR Player Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: In my Dungeon Age: 32 Posts: 2,534	Re: My attempt at a good thread, but not so good it has to be in critical thinking. I am one to really beat myself up if I regret something I have done, or something I wasn't able to accomplish. For example, if I don't get a time that I am aiming for in XC/Track, I will be angry/depressed for the next few hours, and I will reflect on what I could have done better and what I did wrong. And that is quite a minor thing. I expect a lot of myself, and unless I achieve and exceed my expectations, I will not be happy. Achievement at the minimum level for me makes me content, but not in a state of joy. Quite a few of the above posters have mentioned wanting to change a decision that has involved girls/relationships. I'm sure you have different specific reasons, but why do you say that? I am curious to know if the general reasoning matches what I think. By the way, OP, great job at making this thread one that is not too thought provoking, but one that requires you to jog your memory and use your brain a little bit. I think it is the balance that you are looking for. =) __________________ Note to self Finish. Last edited by GamerShadow; 01-5-2008 at 05:17 PM..

01-5-2008, 05:45 PM	#17
Finger Fcker FFR Player Join Date: Jan 2008 Posts: 3	Re: My attempt at a good thread, but not so good it has to be in critical thinking. I thought this when I took my mustang out for a cruise with 3 other friends in the car. I almost killed all of them, stupidly, (though I came the closest to dying). Now I have no car and my insurance skyrocketed. I almost want to say this never happened, but if I leave that regret in my mind, then for future references things could happen for the worse, whether it be a car accident, or whatever. I thought to myself...is it worth the regret? My answer is yes. It's worth a regret, because you can't predict the future... You can always regret doing something, especially if it's stupid... and at the same time you can look back and learn from your experience. You can always turn a regret into a learning experience, otherwise you wouldn't regret it.

01-5-2008, 05:52 PM	#18
Kekeb davai Join Date: Dec 2006 Age: 33 Posts: 2,765	Re: My attempt at a good thread, but not so good it has to be in critical thinking. I regret that i stopped playing soccer. And when I stopped keeping in contact with my best friend that moved. There isn't much else that I really regret... I haven't lived long. Although at the same time sometimes you have to learn to let go of something. When i stopped playing soccer i had time for friends and school. Something i do not regret at all is picking up the sport of aggressive inline. It brought me and another buddy closer together, and I met some new people. Last edited by Kekeb; 01-5-2008 at 05:57 PM..

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