09-4-2015, 06:24 AM | #21 | |
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Re: I'm not having kids.
I intend to have children myself, although it should take upwards of 10 years for me to reach the conditions I'd be satisfied with to actually get them. Not sure I'll be in a heterosexual relationship by then but I'll rely on surrogacy need it be.
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Aside from that, the biological link isn't nearly as important as actually having someone to care for the child, you can always live with someone else (not necessarily in a romantic relationship or maybe in a non-binary one) who is willing to help raise the children. Not sure how it goes there, but in Brazil you'd pretty much need the trust of an actual wife to try that out as it's almost trivial for the mother to bring legal action and take custody of the children while the father has to pay alimony. |
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09-4-2015, 07:49 AM | #22 |
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Re: I'm not having kids.
Unless you leave you're three initials on a scoreboard with a score so siq no one will top it. Then your legacy will live on
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09-4-2015, 11:14 AM | #23 |
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Re: I'm not having kids.
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09-4-2015, 11:52 AM | #24 | |
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Perhaps in the end it would turn out fine, but it seems less optimal than having 2 people who unconditionally love and care for them. What does that accomplish and what reason would they have to do something like that in this hypothetical scenario? Last edited by Izzy; 09-4-2015 at 11:57 AM.. |
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09-4-2015, 06:19 PM | #25 | ||
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Also the argument can be degenerated to 'well, but having 3 people caring for the child is better then'. But yeah, I understand and consider important the aspect of actually having time for the children myself. Quote:
I'm not saying it's widespread practice, but it happens and I wouldn't want to jeopardize the opportunity to raise my children for something like that. |
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09-4-2015, 07:45 PM | #26 | |
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09-4-2015, 08:16 PM | #27 |
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09-4-2015, 08:16 PM | #28 |
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09-4-2015, 09:47 PM | #29 | |
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Re: I'm not having kids.
Sorry for not being clear, I guess I'll at least try to pass the bare essentials of what I'm trying to say. If I can't I'll just give up I guess.
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In case of separation for a couple with children, the parent with custody of the children will almost always get compulsory financial support (alimony) from the other parent for legal reasons. In practice, almost always the mother has priority for taking the custody while the father has to pay the alimony. So, the mother can simply fill in for the separation and get both the children and the money while the father is forced to move away from them. Following from the first premise, this option may be preferrable for the mother and it actually happens here more often than not. Probably trying too hard to elaborate something I said as a passing thought anyway, don't mind me. |
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09-4-2015, 09:59 PM | #30 |
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And I'm asking why the mother is leaving. That is the part I don't understand.
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09-4-2015, 10:15 PM | #31 |
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Oh, I see. Well, the mother may want to leave for reasons similar to divorces in the general population, together with the fact there isn't much to lose if she believes raising the children by herself isn't a problem. The main premise is that the mother isn't really invested in the relationship with the father to start with.
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09-4-2015, 11:19 PM | #32 |
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Re: I'm not having kids.
I don't want children
Not because of the F part, but taking care of them 24/7 |
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