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Originally Posted by Hakulyte

I think we just forgot to establish a common ground before discussing.

or

The point of the thread is to establish that common ground in the first place by asking questions.

i mean it depends on your perspective

for op as best as i can tell the thread operates a mechanism by which she can force herself to deal with still unresolved inconsistencies in her subconscious

Originally Posted by drizzleRomanceGirl

well i'm still having internal struggles because i haven't had the surgery yet ... but i'm a girl so having to choose that i'm a girl wouldn't be a struggle at all

this is a pretty clear indicator of that

the process of inviting questions from others is a substitute for questions she doesn't want to ask herself or doesn't know how to ask herself and the rationalized answers will serve to reinforce strong positions and correct internal conflicts or equivocations either through rationalization or emotional reaction towards one extreme or another

im not here to look smart- that would require that on some level i ascribe any value to the opinions of others, i'm here to reaffirm my own belief that you're all stupid

and i do that by telling you what i think and why i think it and gauging your responses

whatever else the rest of you do or don't take away from that is up to you