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Originally Posted by mellonxcollie
Here's my question for Drizz (sorry if it's a hard question):
Is there anything you would do differently if you were able to start your transition completely over? As in, is there anything that didn't go as well as you had hoped or that you wish you hadn't done? If you were giving someone else advice, what would you tell to avoid doing?
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thank you; this is a really fun question
i would transition much earlier before i actually went through male puberty and i would tell all my family and friends and everyone in my classes in school including all my teachers because some friends i have still don't know i'm transgender since i haven't seen them in like 10 years and i want everyone i know personally to know i'm transgender
i didn't tell my dad and brother i'm transgender until 10th grade in 2009 or 2010 and even though i kept telling my mom i felt closer to girls she thought it was just a phase and didn't really believe me until after i started transitioning when college started
i just think things could have been different if i told my family earlier because my mom still mourns "the old me" because before i transitioned i used to be a lot more passive and antisocial and reserved on the outside except with my best friend and now i'm a lot more opinionated and expressive and i share my emotions more often so i'm a completely different person according to her and she said she had to accept me as a new person
my brother accepted me right away but he didn't want me to go near his friends or school after i started transitioning because he was worried they wouldn't want to be his friend anymore if they knew i was his sister and i still looked like a man back then and i was wearing feminine clothes; after a few years though he didn't care as much what other people would think and he let me go near his friends and school again
my dad thinks the hormones made my thought-process cloudy and i'm less logical and less able to understand what people are saying
because apparently i used to understand him a lot more and was able to have intelligent conversations with him; maybe if i took hormones a lot earlier he wouldn't think that
also when i visited my high school after i started transitioning in college i told almost all of my teachers a teacher from high school said something like "you can be whatever you want to be" and some other teachers thought i was weird and a student from marching band and drumline made fun of me
i would also see an endocrinologist instead of a urologist because my urologist prescribes hormones and checks my levels but he's not a hormone specialist and he's a well-known doctor so i can only see him once every six months or even later
i would also be able to express myself and i wouldn't have to hide how i felt for so long