[Cavernio]

Yeah, I suppose 'falling in love' is the strongest of romantic feelings one can have, and I guess I didn't exactly define it very well. Perhaps that wasn't the best way to classify a romantic feeling for someone, as you may never go through life experiencing that even if you have the capacity to experience it.

I dunno about asexuality...some people don't fall in love but love sex, others fall in love but don't like sex, but it seems both can then use the term asexual?

I agree with pretty much most of what you've said too moches. Just because a man falls under a position of power within society, doesn't mean that he is more free to be himself if his self is, for instance, a soft-spoken, 'feminine' person.

Off-topic: Sometimes I do wonder if it's actually good to break down gender-barriers though. Rather, not just gender barriers, but all socially defined roles. It feels like, somehow, we as a society must be missing out on something by focussing on breaking down the idea of fitting into a social defined role, when humanity seemingly spent thousands of years creating and recreating social roles for individuals to fill, when social roles seemingly must have some importance to humanity as a whole. I don't know what this would be, I don't really have any sort of logic to it. Surely society wouldn't break down if we all felt more free to be more natural to ourselves, and yet I feel that that seems more imminent if we break social roles. But that's ridiculous I know. And I truly DO believe that people should be more free to be themselves as I think it will make people happier to not have to struggle against a norm they don't fit into.

If you're a man and you fit the stereotype of a macho man, or you want to be the type of man this guy was saying men should be, there's nothing wrong with that. It's wrong/off, however, to perceive that just because OTHER men aren't fitting into that category more and more, that your own self-identity is being challenged.