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Originally Posted by Cavernio

Choof, I dunno what's going on in your head. You're gay, then you're asexual, then you love dogs wrapped in bubble wrap...come on now, make up your mind.

Seriously though, have you fallen in love or felt a deep connection or desire that involves you wanting to touch them (not necessarily sexually, just wanting to touch them) because it does or you think it would feel nice, with a woman? Now answer the same question but replace woman with man.

If you said yes to both those, you're bisexual. If you said yes to only one of those, it seems likely you're gay or straight.

I find questionnaires about sexuality a little off-putting myself. They seem solely focussed on sex and ignore the emotions involved. I think of myself as very straight as I've never felt anything remotely close to romantic love for a woman, but because I wouldn't shy away from sex with a woman if the rest of the sexual situation called for it, (and I would probably enjoy it), then I fall somewhere in the middle of some of the most popular sexual scales. I feel misrepresented by them.
Furthermore, I think it doesn't help lesbian and gay people truly explain who they are to outsiders if they're getting categorized solely by sexual activities. Yes it's your sexual identity, but most of us call love as more than just sex, so being gay or straight is about more than just sex too.

this is honestly really really well-said. thank you.