[All_That_Chaz]

I know, sappy topic, but I had an interesting thought.

How do you define love? Is it in the positive feelings felt when you're around your beloved or in the negative feelings you associate with being separated from your object of affection.

For example, imagine two men, we'll call them Paul and Dan. Paul loves being in love. He falls in and out of love seemingly at the drop of a hat, and he does so for a reason. When with someone, he is the happiest he could possibly be. However, when they split up, he moves on without any extended drama or depression. He simply accepts it and moves on, eager to fall in love again. Dan, on the other hand, is more picky with his significant others, and for good reason. He's happy when he's with someone, sure. Not as much as Paul, but he finds it agreeable. But when Dan breaks off a relationship, it tears him apart. We're talking therapy, days going by without attending class, sappy poetry, late night drunk phone calls, the whole deal. It takes him a long time to get over her (or him), and it takes him a long time to find someone new.

Which one of these two experiences "love" more? Is it the happy-go-lucky Paul that derives amazing amounts of joy from his feelings of love? Or is it Dan who feels so much pain because of his feelings of love?