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I don't know if this is the kind of thing most people would be willing to discuss, here. In fact, I'm not sure what is the community's general position in regards to ideologies such as feminism (I was banned from TvTropes for daring to voice my disagreement with feminism).
Anyway, I found this video on the subject which I found very interesting: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Pw_U...&feature=share In general, it explains how women are far more determinant and responsible than society believes they are in the cycle of violence, in several different ways. It's long, but very complete and quite revolting in a few parts. The author cites a lot of sources. I can't check the validity of all the statistics in the video, but they seem to be coherent. It would be interesting if a feminist took the time to watch and attempt refute each point, though I'm pretty sure some would just make generic accusations of "gish gallop" (has happened before), which is a very convenient way of not having to bother to make an argument. Something other than "the studies are biased" would also be good. Of course no study is completely free of bias, but when several figures agree like that, there's something definitely worth looking into. |
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Before this starts (and inevitably gets out of hand) I'd just like to make sure Zaevod and everyone else is aware that "Several figures agree" does not in any way suggest that something is worthy of significant consideration.
Statistical analysis can imply that cancer causes cellphones, and that the popularity of firefox is tied to the popularity of wiccanism. Also that pirates were the only thing keeping AIDS under control. Be careful you don't assume something is true because "a bunch of people say it" or "A number of statistics agree" |
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are we talking feminism as in "womyn" or feminism as in "full gender equality"
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Feminist equality is really "equality under the feminist worldview" which often includes blaming everything on "the Patriarchy". In other words, it's highly debatable.
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do you disagree with the idea and goal of gender equity? |
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I don't see anything inherently wrong with gender equality other than genders not being the same so they are already fundamentally different. However, most of the time when I hear about feminism it seems to be about wanting women to be superior and not equal.
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Watching that video helps, as it refutes many claims commonly held by feminists. This also helps: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fXIjLJWHJUo Quote:
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ehhh I mean, a woman pretty much gets knocked out of commission for ~9 months if they have a child. That in itself is a big reason I don't think men and women can ever be equal and must have roles.
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Zaevod: that's why I used "equity" instead of "equality." different genders are most definitely not identical. equity means fairness, and I would say that giving an entire school class a 95% on an exam regardless of what answers they wrote down is not fair. equal opportunity is fair.
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A lot of self-declared feminists claim to fight for equality but have done and said distasteful things. Claiming that they are "not true feminists" is a "no true scotsman" fallacy. |
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I guess if it has to be one way or the other I wouldn't mind sitting around minding the children either. |
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I'm not so naive to think that taking care of children is a walk in the park. I have 3 nephews and they're true terror. I also had to act as the mature older brother of two hyperactive children, and my mother wasn't very good at what she did. |
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that wasn't a stab, your post really did show how little you know about raising a child. or at least, extended periods with children.
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Okaayy, so I guess I need to watch my posts to make sure you guys don't grab the wrong meaning from it? Of course I didn't mean literally sitting around. Only a retard would think that. Taking care of children is far from it, and it's stressful as hell. Being a parent is pretty much the only profession that you will never get paid for. Thus why I think it is an important role that one partner must take.
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My point, and the point of the videos I posted, is that things are not so simple. |
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Just to be clear: I didn't create this thread to specifically bash feminism, but to challenge the notion that violence is primarily a male trait, and that women are the primary victims. You see a lot of discussion about violence against women on the mainstream, but a lot of people don't take male victims or female perpetrators seriously.
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Actually, the video does cover some of these claims.
As for the excuse of the woman "being stressed out" as a mitigating factor... I can't imagine anyone claiming the same thing for a man under the same circumstances. Your post also contains the conclusion that women were more oppressed in its premises. In short, everyone is oppressed in different ways. Society just gives a lot more sympathy for female issues. Maybe you should check the videos of a woman named Karen Straughan. She elaborates on a lot of these points. I can't write too much at the moment because I'm on my phone, but I will, later. |
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I don't deny that there are many well-intentioned feminists, but feminism is not just composed by those people, in the same way christians are not just composed by mormons or catholics. Making a sweeping claim about what feminism is trying to do, when many self-proclaimed feminists actually contradict that, is a little problematic. Quote:
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There are people who laugh on national television about an innocent man who had his penis cut off by his wife:https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=muuFygvXPAM Genital mutilation on males is still accepted and even condoned by a large part of the western population, while female genital mutilation is nearly universally recognized as unacceptable in our culture. We even have a trope that addresses this disparity: http://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.ph...pendableGender I could go on. Women gain a lot more sympathy than men for the same issues, in general. Women are also seen as less responsible when doing the same crimes, so they get lighter sentences. As a whole, society treats women as children and men as disposable, which is both misogynistic and misandric. Quote:
Still, people see more issues that women face because people care more about issues that women face, and are more willing to do research based on that. Men constitute 93% of worplace related deaths (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Occupational_fatality) as well as 80% of suicides(http://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/help-...a-z/S/suicide/). Men have been historically forced to throw their lives away at wars. Men are the majority of rape victims when you take prison rape into consideration, as well as the majority of victims of assault in general. They get harsher sentences for the same crime, etc, etc... Perhaps you'd be willing to listen to a woman on the subject? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PqEeCCuFFO8 |
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Before reading the thread, after watching the video.
~18:00 No, you hold men to too high a standard, not women to too low a standard. It's perfectly valid and RIGHT to say something like 'But women spend three times as much time raising children'. The correct male/female ratio SHOULD be viewed as the way one automatically thinks, because that is the accurate way of viewing it. It's like when I worked at UPS and I because twice as many shipments of mine were being looked at, they found twice as many errors as for people who only had half as many shipments being looked at, but then thought I was doing twice a bad a job as them. The same principle applies here. The prison rape discussion fails to point out the obvious that it clearly shows that it's men who were doing the raping of other men. Spanking, as discussed in this video, has not separated spanking from the overall beliefs and actions of the parent who spanks holds. ie: spanking is obviously going to be related to other actions that are going to also be detrimental to a child. I am intrigued by this though, and I might look up more studies about this just in my own time, about women and spanking and also about negative effects of spanking. The very end of the video walks a very tight line...how many women teachers who want to teach older kids get asked 'Oh wouldn't you rather teach this grade 2 class?' And yup, if men don't help raise kids, of course women are going to be raising kids more...that's not new, and more male involvement with raising kids is one of those things that a lot of feminists would like. I wonder if that McGill study at the end that showed that the most important factor for empathy is men in a child's life, ever had kids in that study that had no female nurturers? The take-away message from that study, to me, is if there is a 2nd nurturer to a child, possibly one that is not with them all the time so there's an opportunity to miss them such that their interactions will be different and more meaningful for the time they have them, than the relationship they'll have with the primary caregiver. The sex of the parent seems like it would be irrelevant. EVERY child will have a primary caregiver or else the child probably won't be alive. The baseline, therefore, for learning to empathize from social interaction isn't going to be 0, they will already have some level of empathy learning/developing from the primary caregiver, and they will ALWAYS have that, yet we're given to believe from the video that having a father involved is the single most important thing for a child to develop empathy. Yes, given the baseline of 'some amount of empathy granted by having a primary caregiver', it's not that surprising that a secondary, loving caregiver is the biggest factor above and beyond this non-0 empathy baseline. I have specifically seen the term "feminism" applied to inequalities between men and women only, without it necessarily meaning that women must arise only to power. I'm not sure that's a great definition of the word, but there it is. In any case, yes, of course there are inequalities for men where society treats them unfairly. 'It wouldn't be creepy for you or us to hang around the park, but it would be for me (a man)' The only thing in this video where women have apparently overstepped a boundary pushed by feminism, is when the paternity of a child doesn't matter for who has to support the child...although even that is a little sketchy because it's ultimately the child who we should be looking at, and if the child themselves thinks that their dad is their dad, it'd be a terrible thing to find out when you're 5 or something that your dad, upon finding out you're not their biological kid, suddenly wanted nothing to do with you. That is, I suppose, separate from making a man pay money to support a child though anyways. It's really a social cop-out though I suppose, because that kid needs financial support from somewhere, and there's a reason the actual dad isn't paying support, and the government doesn't want to have to foot the child support. |
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Female genital mutilation involves completely cutting off her clitoris (because god forbid she gets pleasure) or some crazy crap like sewing her shut except to have sex with her.
Male genital mutilation, AFAIK, involves getting rid of foreskin. Keep in mind that the only reason there IS a push towards feminine issues is because feminism is being successful. Also, yes, you should be able to EASILY say that women have a harder time in society if you just don't look at the past 10 years in your specific area. All throughout history, women have been the primary caregivers for children which, even if not outright treated as second-class citizens, (which is just not the case) end up not having the opportunities to do things besides raise kids and look after the home. In most of the world women are still treated far worse than men. Sympathy is a good thing that comes from a good place, and I usually don't perceive that I'm being coddled like a 5 year old because someone is nice to me because I'm a woman. (Of course I'm also lucky enough to live in a place where I am not treated like a second class citizen.) I perceive that men, when not given the same consideration as I might be, are getting treated poorly. |
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I'm not going to make another lengthy post about the whole oppression thing (you can watch that last video I posted if you want and read the few posts above), it's not meant to be a competition of suffering. Still, it's good to remember that things are not as simple as the mainstream believes.
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I never said it's "worse", since that's irrelevant, but it sure as hell shouldn't be considered as acceptable as it is today. It's mutilation on someone's body without consent. Period. If there really is a medical requirement for it, then fine, but it's completely unnecessary in the majority of cases. There's a lot of material on it, but here's a quick video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VXbl83m0tQ0 Sure, it helps to prevent some diseases. Like taking out your lungs prevents lung cancer. Edit: Better video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=acc70D2ApFg And part 2: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NPxjhLq3eUQ Quote:
You missed the point that rape is not a gendered issue that specifically targets women, as a lot of influential feminists seem to believe. |
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I for one am very happy my parents got my nasty ass foreskin cut off so I wouldn't have to look at a gross ass dick everyday so speak for yourself
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if you mean gross as in aesthetically it looks unappealing, then I would call this a problem with society's influence. the same way we criticize models for being too skinny and making girls feel self-conscious by creating unrealistic standards of beauty, society should also try to avoid making guys feel self-conscious about their dick, whether it's being cut or not, a size issue, endurance, etc. there also isn't that much of a difference when the penis is erect, as the foreskin pulls back anyways unfortunately, we cannot realistically control whether our dick is circumcised or not (cutting is a scary thought and "uncutting" isn't exactly straightforward either), and there is no significant positive reason for circumcision (people may disagree here), so it shouldn't be something that is encouraged |
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It's still definitely the case that comparing circumcision to the kind of female genital mutilation which is still practised in some parts of the world is absolutely asinine in about the same way as comparing putting handcuffs on a thief when they are arrested versus chopping off the hand of a thief under Shari-ah law would be.
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Do you think there can exist a case in which you would not consider it asinine to remove part of a human's genitalia for ideological reasons, if it were done in a surgically precise manner?
If yes/no, why? As an exercise, try not to use axiomatic values without explaining why they may be used. (This is just a teacher-esque question to provoke discussion) |
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Try to think of it this way: What level of female genital cutting (as minimal as it can be) without the girl's consent would be considered acceptable in our society? Also, your analogy is atrocious. You are completely ignoring the damage done by circumcision. |
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Why should we have to watch videos in order to understand your point?
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I think the best answer you can really say is as long as you're not forcing something significantly harmful on someone. If someone who is qualified to make that kind of decision on their own and chooses to do themselves harm, so be it. While there aren't any real benefits to circumcision, it technically does not strongly impact the general health of an individual, so it's not totally unjustified under simply ideological reasons. And that's exactly why it's not the same as the female genital cutting. Relatively speaking, there is far more damage done from the cutting of the female genitalia than the male. |
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Women are abusive in the emotional sense far more often than men ever are physically abusive. They get away with it because no actual physical harm is done, but they can easily lead to psychotic episodes due to how they manipulate their psyche.
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It's also not unheard of for mothers to get their female infant's ears pierced, although I suspect that that's probably quite a bit less painful than getting circumcised. Yet you don't get many people finding that abhorrent. Given that comparison, circumcision becomes a cultural problem that, because of what it is, only affects men. So to then say something like the idea that we think circumcision is OK because it happens to men and it's not OK for a woman because she's a woman, and that's the reason we aren't up in arms about circumcision, is just wrong. I mean, the feeling that I'm getting from what zaevod is saying about inequalities and poor treatment of men, is partially why I'm uncomfortable with calling myself a feminist too. Like, sexism does happen when people erroneously think of men or women as having quality x and they shouldn't have quality y, and I'm totally against that. But when someone then takes something that's ultimately not an issue with the sex of someone per se, but seems to affect more women than men, I guess that's when I have a hard time calling myself a feminist. Because I don't view it as a gendered issue necessarily? And I have that same sort of 'this isn't a gender issue ultimately' with some things that zaevod is saying. I dunno, maybe that's wrong. Maybe it's just that I know I just disagree with some feminist views and don't like labels in general and I don't want people to think one way of me if I identify as a feminist because I feel there's often, sadly, a negative connotation to the word. Quote:
I did not miss the point where women are often called victims re: the fact that men get raped in prison. I just don't see that women being called out as being the victims of rape and focussing on that, as taking away from this other, separate issue of 'rape in prisons'. I mean, ultimately, the issue is 'rape of people in a position of subjugation' which, sadly, especially in non European and north American countries, means it's generally rape of women, since women are subjugated and are physically smaller, etc. (How many large, burly men get raped in prison compared to smaller men? And there are questions like, if rapists who rape men in prison had access to women as well, I sincerely doubt the stats would stay the same.) And I've certainly seen in tv crime shows (regular Law and Order notably, the awesome show that it is), sadly portray a man who they arrested in error of a child molestation crime, only to find that they got killed in prison before learning of his innocence. It was a great show because it showed not only the horror that is our penitentiary system, but also created pathos for a man not treated justly. And pertinently for this discussion, it goes to show that such injustices I think are known to the population at large. Doesn't mean we can't try and do more about them though. The video posted in the OP did a decent (most of the time) job with keeping the 'feminists are a/the problem' at bay, because they're not the problem. Sexism towards males is a societal problem and if anything, feminism and the push towards gender/sex equality has just paved the way for us to actually perceive that men too are treated poorly and unfairly, largely in different ways. |
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In any case, such things are part of the reason why I'd like to read more about spanking as being this horrible, abusive thing to do. Is spanking really a separate bad thing from having a less loving, more controlling parent in general? |
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Moreover "A lot of self-declared feminists claim to fight for equality but have done and said distasteful things" bears the heavy scent of paralogism, you're not proving anything with that claim, rather you imply without any sort of proof that feminism as a whole is a seemingly suspicious entity without ever really explaining why and this is actually problematic. That's a division fallacy. Quote:
That's an open door to very non sequitur claims. "Since you bear children for nine months you must take care of them more (because that's your role)" has the strong scent of fallacy because of how quick the conclusion is drawn from the first premise. There is little things in-between these two postulates and this is usually what reveals a fallacious argument. At most I think this is a very arbitrary idea. The fact men and women will never be absolutely equal do not in any way disqualify the intention of making them more equal on the social ground. It's like saying we do not have to ask for political freedom because an absolute freedom is irrational. Quote:
At least, that's what I personally believe. Saying male people have priviledges doesn't mean they don't suffer from any sort of prejudice and enjoy an absolute superiority universally reproduced everywhere in society (it's easy to make straw men when you first get wind of that "priviledge" concept), this just means that society as a whole essentially oppresses females (because they get as a base the role of the "dominated") and that males get the role of dominants despite their will and interests. Having that dominant role obviously causes a lot of prejudice but also implies that women are in a much less enviable situation generally speaking. I hope I helped making the position clearer and maybe more rational to your mind. Things are not as black and white you may believe feminists think but they have an understandable pattern. |
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So yes, I think sexist prejudices against men are caused by the same variable that give them an averagely superior position to women. |
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Couple of examples: - oral sex - shaving of the pubes - whether or not we think it's acceptable to have sex before marriage All of these things, you'll find significant differences in preference between two groups of people. Generally speaking, groups of people that are more liberal about issues of sex, watch pornography, etc, tend to enjoy oral sex more, prefer shaved genitalia, and think it's okay to have sex before marriage. |
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That'd be correlation if true stargroup, not causational.
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I get slapped, yelled at and kicked by one of my ex's, nobody bats an eye.
I slap her after she does all three, everyone loses their mind. Just because someone is a woman doesn't mean you can get away with hitting me. If you hit me, I WILL hit back. I won't beat someone, but if they want to slap me, I'll slap back. |
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Let's solve violence with more violence! :-|
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There are lots of ways of resolving issues without returning violence. I'm not necessarily saying that you were necessarily in the wrong in hitting that girl back, but that's certainly not an appropriate attitude.
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Sorry for not answering before. I was busy with a lot of other stuff.
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Absolutely nothing you posted justifies the fact that this medically unnecessary(in the vast majority of cases) act is performed on newborn babies with no consent whatsoever. If someone wants whatever health benefits they believe they can gain from being circumcised, they should do it when they choose to, not as an imposition from their parents. The main issue here is precisely the fact that a large part of society doesn't consider this to be a violation of human rights. I don't see why this is so difficult to grasp. In an earlier post, I also posted these: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=acc70D2ApFg And part 2: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NPxjhLq3eUQ You don't have to watch them, but they provide some nice extra information. |
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I got it from the peer reivewed Mayo Clinic Proceedings? You know, the Mayo Clinic that is pretty much the premier medical facility on Earth? Yeah, those guys thought the study was well done enough to publish. Yours come from a place actually called circumstitions. Now, I love a good pun as much as the next guy, but we're talking orders of magnitude here.
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Yeah multipost but hours away.
Mastectomies reduce the rate of breast cancer hugely, obviously it's in my best interest to go get one. |
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Because circumcision is the same as, what would you even call it, a Prostatectomy?
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no this website was created in 2002.
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The only reason we've even bothered studying that circumcision as a notable thing to make sure that it's not harmful (still debatable...just because, as a whole, risks may not outweight benefits...even if that were a thing one can properly measure, you're still taking a risk) is because it's ridiculously common. It's still removal of a body part without consent for not really any GOOD reason. |
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I like the people who link a few articles from highly biased, non-peer-reviewed sources as if they have any meaning.
Said sites will show like a few dozen operations gone wrong and they're all like "BUT LOOK IT CAN BE BAAAAD" You realize a death rate of two per million is literally lower than the death rate from stepping into a bathtub? |
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not only is "misogyny" not precisely defined in that article but "misogyny kills" is a nebulous, imperfect and ideological (yes) gloss over what are undoubtedly numerous factors that contributed to the cause-->effect of that shooter's actions, including his neurological makeup, his existing genetic predispositions, his home environment and his interpersonal relationships, among others. to conclude causality on the basis of "misogyny" is intellectually irresponsible if not absurd, as if one can immediately ascertain the correlation of a set of social factors. on a more subjective note, that guardian article is a reactionary kneejerk that's better off as a reddit comment.
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The headline is clickbait, but the article does address "his neurological makeup, his existing genetic predispositions, his home environment and his interpersonal relationships" and misogyny was an underlying factor for all of those things. That's just the nature of click-based success in journalism, you have to have a one-liner for idiots like us to argue about regardless of the rest of the article's content.
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you say "regardless of the rest of the article's content" like the article's content was worth arguing about. it's some of the sloppiest causal reasoning I've seen in print in a while outside of mainstream political punditry, although I suppose this could count as 'mainstream'. it's shameful that the guardian is now the UK version of the huffington post, when it used to host greenwald as a regular contributor.
this line is especially ill-conceived given the rest of it: "glosses over the role that misogyny and gun culture play (and just how foreseeable violence like this is) in a sexist society" note that the author cites no evidence of contribution that these cultural factors play to this incident, rather you're just expected to draw a connection because one event happened to be close to the other in time. in other words, what follows an event is not caused by an event. using this same reasoning I could say 'presidential culture', whatever the hell that means (it's not defined, just like 'misogyny' isn't defined by the author) caused Obama to intervene in Libya; I wouldn't, because that's irresponsible and I have no way to prove that claim but what does the author actually cite? links to men's rights forums. this lets me know that the author was likely on these forums reacting to the incident and felt linking to men's rights-related material a higher priority than demonstrating causal claims about gun culture or misogyny. given that I've engaged with people like this before, I fully expect the author to give some perception-based explanation like "look around you it's obvious" that breaks down when you don't see the same thing or think it's equally obvious. then, the author cites the fact that men's rights groups have been flagged by the SPLC, which immediately lets me know this author's ideological position since the people who repeat this particular talking point tend to have a certain stake in shifting around the definition of words to suit their ends. I have a feeling that if I recommended The Blank Slate to this author she would dismiss it on the grounds that Pinker is a misogynist -- this has happened. the author even uses this wording "an organization that tracks hate groups, has been watching their movements for years"; the significance of "has been watching their movements for years" is only significant if it implies an active vigil, which it isn't; more than likely it's been in their database and they don't give a shit. (or if they do, then the state of hate groups in the US has reached a pretty mild level.) some of the author's claims are trivially true, like "there is no such thing as a lone misogynist", but it's a paraphrase of the claim that culture exerted causal force on this event. not only does the author not define her terms in any meaningful way, the cause-->effect reasoning is atrocious. I was being generous in my first comment, but it's frankly ridiculous that anyone would think this article is worthwhile, much less meritorious. Quote:
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wait... is someone claiming that an incident where a guy killed a bunch of women after making videos about how much he hates women and how he will enjoy killing them and even writing huge "manifesto" about his hatred of women, is unrelated to misogyny?
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so by "is someone" I think you mean "is Arch0wl" because I'm almost positive you're referring to me, and if you're going to address my arguments you should address me directly as opposed to referring to me in some limpwristed and ambiguous 3rd-person fashion.
anyway, like, seriously, your paraphrase of my response is not an accurate paraphrase. you should try quoting the things you're responding to because then you would understand why your rephrasing of things does not capture the original semantics of the words you're responding to. the article's author does not define misogyny, first of all, so other than some vague meaning like "hatred of women" (which is also the most literal definition) we don't know what she means. however, she continually refers to a culture of misogyny, which I mentioned. it's inarguable that the shooter's individual hatred for what he perceives as slights from women (and men; if you recall, he stabbed his roommates) influenced his actions, however we don't know how much his belief was influenced by his genetic predispositions or neurological makeup. many personality traits are, after all, heritable; this is known throughout the discipline of psychology. in other words, you're erroneously equivocating between his individual hatred of people on his part and a larger, vaguer cultural idea. perhaps this is the kind of thinking that leads to articles like the one we're unfortunately discussing. ("unfortunately" because anyone with a good sense of causal reasoning would immediately identify its errors and discard it.) note that I did not dispute that his own hatred of other people was a factor; I disputed the cultural connections. which you would know if you read my reply closely, and you didn't. I will proceed to quote the part that you probably didn't read: Quote:
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"Women are abusive in the emotional sense far more often than men ever are physically abusive."Fact check? Back up? We should both pull some cited stats. Reports of female-on-male violence are certainly dwarfed by male-on-female violence (or even male-on-male violence). Men possess physical strength most women do not. Female abusers, as such, tend to rely more on psychological abuse as there's simply no other option. The tone of your post reads that it's "not fair" that "women get away with abuse". From what research I've done on the topic, I can conclude that men simply do not report incidents of abuse. I'm not shifting the blame. Many, many, many people do not report abuse; particularly verbal, psychological abuse as it can be difficult to identify and prove. Reporting abuse is hard enough. It's harder in a society where men are ridiculed throughout their lives if they're "beaten by a girl", no matter the scenario. |
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Sry arch, i responded that way because i'm not really taking you seriously.
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yeah, your failures to articulate objections or accurately read what you're responding to are not my problem.
taking an argument seriously, however, which I intepret as "accurately reading a claim and articulating an objection to it", is the point of this board. saying you don't take someone seriously is below the rigor of what this board demands; it's a rhetorical dismissal -- a refusal to actually defend your stance. in other words, if you're going to exist on "contradiction" level or below on Graham's hierarchy, you should not be involved in this discussion on this particular board. |
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by that reasoning, this entire thread should probably be moved lol. but you have a point. its been quite a while since i stopped pretending not to be looking down on people when they start sounding like an average mra troll.
here's a shot though: before we start, lets check merriam-webster since you clearly can't do this yourself. misogyny: a hatred of women culture: the beliefs, customs, arts, etc., of a particular society, group, place, or time : a particular society that has its own beliefs, ways of life, art, etc. : a way of thinking, behaving, or working that exists in a place or organization (such as a business) puting these together to understand "culture of misogyny" should be a pretty simple task, try it out. the link from "culture of misogyny" to his actions becomes obvious if we break it into 2 parts. one from culture of misogyny to personal misogyny and another from personal misogyny to his actions. i believe that even you already see the second part so i'll just worry about the first. lets first acknowledge that such a culture exists and that he was involved in it. there are numerous ways to see that this is true, but to take just one: he was a member of PUAhate.com, a site that primarily served as a place for people to come and express essentially the same views that he expressed in his videos about hating women. the site is currently down but here's a brief look at the reaction to him murdering innocents: ![]() now we need only notice that being surrounded by a culture with certain beliefs influences your own beliefs. this is so widely known throughout psychology, sociology, etc. that i feel silly having to even say it. but that is really all thats needed to prove my point. lastly, i will mention that nobody is claiming that misogyny is the only thing that influenced this tragedy and to suggest as much is an intentional straw man. rather, misogyny fits in nicely with all the other likely influencers. lets take a look at your own list and show how everything fits nicely with the role of misogyny. Quote:
genetic predispositions: this is incredibly important. while nobody is born hating 1/2 the population or already being a murderer, there are certainly genetic factors that make such things more likely or easier to trigger in some people than in others. a normal person could deal with rejection without hating all women, and even if they did reach the point of women hating, they would not go out and murder a bunch of people. this is the age old relation between nature and nurture. comlicated thoughts/actions like hating an entire gender, or deciding to go on a killing spree can't be explained by either one by its self, but require both. home environment: this is probably the hardest one to find reliable info about or decipher in any meaningful way. based on his videos, and further supported by his home, car, etc. it sounds like the typical story of moderately wealthy entitled youth who *almost* always gets what he wants, has one thing he wants but doesnt get and freaks out about it. the "thing" he wanted was women. that was awefully speculative, but by the end of the post it should be clear that it doesn't even matter. interpersonal relationships: this really ties into everything else, his relationships with females went nowhere and his relationships with males are largely unknown at this time, but given the forums he frequented, at least a portion of them served largely to reinforce his women hating. among others: we could go on, but it shouldn't be needed, the point is that other factors existing not only doesn't negate misogyny being a factor, but rather, the various factors can be closely related. |
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the merriam-webster definition of any word is going to give you the most layman definition of a word. "misogyny" does not mean the same thing in gender theory as its literal meaning. further, the literal meaning is often not what is meant when 'misogyny' is used; it's more akin to 'homophobia', where someone simply means a bias against women or a dislike of some female tendency. if you're still not convinced of why what you just did is far too simplistic for this discussion, merriam-webster defines "fallacy" as "a wrong belief : a false or mistaken idea." this is not the specialist definition that someone who uses the word 'fallacy' will use. they will use it to specifically mean "an error in reasoning." you have to get to definition 3 to find anything approximating this, and even then they define it as "an often plausible argument using false or invalid inference" -- but 'often plausible' is not even a criterion of the academic definition of 'fallacy'. in other words, simply beating the drum of "misogyny means 'hatred of women'" will take you nowhere. it's extremely hyperbolic to say that there is a culture of literally hating half of the adult planet. either you're exaggerating or reading something else as hate; people do not experience emotions that intensely on such a wide scale. this is especially blockheaded considering the 20th century has seen races of people killed on a mass scale out due to hate -- the kind of hate that allows someone to watch a family die and feel nothing. to call an online forum of people who post about bias against men "misogynist" and cite a literal definition of 'hatred' is stretching that word to the extreme. so it's very likely that the author means something else -- most likely some general bias against women in a negative direction. Quote:
many people try to explain that their child became smart in adulthood because of their environment. yet, twin studies repeatedly show that adult IQ is highly heritable and that parental environment matters little once base needs are provided for. it is enormously tempting to attribute a person's actions to their immediate environment and you're doing that without a basis for gauging the environment's contribution. Quote:
your picture does not tell me anything that a screenshot from 4chan could not tell me. "now we need only notice that being surrounded by a culture with certain beliefs influences your own beliefs" -- actually, posting on an internet forum is hardly "being surrounded by a culture." you can leave whenever you want. in fact, you're more likely to seek out an internet forum because you already have some pre-existing belief. if the internet forum works against you, then you'd likely leave. given that I know this shooter acted violent at of the parties he went to, I doubt this is a person who would stick around an internet forum once given personal abuse. "[surrounded by a culture with certain beliefs influences your own beliefs] is so widely known throughout psychology, sociology, etc. that i feel silly having to even say it. but that is really all thats needed to prove my point." actually, a book which was a finalist for the pulitzer prize in nonfiction was enormously dedicated to explaining how culture does not contribute to development nearly as much as we think it does. the dominance of culture in development and in influence of behavior is an ideological position in psychology, not a "widely known" fact. Quote:
neurologically your reasoning that his brain "fits nicely with misogyny" is that "it is safe to say his brain was abnormal, [which] played a strong role in both his involvement in the previously mentioned culture of misogyny as well as his eventually reaching the point where he felt murder was the best solution to his problem." you have no idea what his brain composition is. you have no idea what neurological attributes contributed to his attitudes toward women. you are making conclusions you have no grounding to make. you are, essentially, speculating and claiming certainty via speculation. "its reasonable to think that his mind was the primary factor in his inability to get laid" does not say anything about his neurological makeup; his "mind" can refer to his cognition which is independent of his neurological makeup. just because something is "mental" does not mean it is "neurological." your attempt to tie genetics to misogyny did not actually claim anything about his genetic predispositions other than that "it's really complicated" and that some of this must be related to misogyny, somehow. your home environment paragraph concluded that you can't actually draw any conclusions about this, which is a rather unfortunate thing to say when you're "show how everything fits nicely with the role of misogyny." the most important thing you said was this: "his relationships with females went nowhere and his relationships with males are largely unknown at this time, but given the forums he frequented, at least a portion of them served largely to reinforce his women hating." which is probably true. and drawing a cultural explanation probably isn't -- or at least, you can't conclude so with the amount of information you have. labeling this a product of a "culture of misogyny" glosses over lots of complicated factors that have to do with it. you don't know the degree of contribution that various cultural factors play. you cannot know this without better measurements. to wildly claim this is to not only simplify the issue but distort it; certainly his environment contributed to this, but you don't know how much, and to paint a "culture of misogyny" as a huge aspect of this so readily is intellectually irresponsible. but I want to draw attention to something you did, because I think it underlies a much more troublesome issue with the way you think. you immediately suspected anyone critical of this particular line of semantic distortion as being "an mra", as if that's the prime opposition that could exist for this sort of thing. this position wasn't even suggested, but you pinned it on someone who contradicted what I suspect is your ideology anyway. you are thinking in black-white terms and it's going to narrow your worldview to that of an ideologue. don't do that. |
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what an absurd way of thinking. such a narrow definition makes the word useless. obviously the idea that any culture could propogate hate against any gender would be nearly impossible with such an exaggerated definition of "hate" Quote:
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and for the rest of your response, i believe you've completely misunderstood nearly everything i said, though, this time it was patially my fault for not realising how much i would have to explain everything. for example, i never claimed to know much about his brain composition, i never claimed to know -anything- with certainty, etc. so very little of that is relavent to my main point. just a few last bits though: Quote:
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edit: i'd also like to clarify my confusing naming. i imagine that the majority of people i would think of as "mra trolls" aren't even mras, but rather trolls that take on the persona of an exagerated caricature of an mra because its really good for trolling. |
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My post was admittedly imprecise, I meant something closer to 'and misogyny was an underlying factor in enabling the manifestation of those things'. He may have been neurologically/genetically imbalanced, but the culture of misogyny in which he immersed himself reinforced the things which he deduced himself. Maybe he still would have killed those people if everyone he ever expressed those views to told him that he was a psychopath, but it might have helped if society didn't ignore his many warning signs (as have been discussed previously in this thread).
It was a general article, not intended to be studied with academic rigor, of course it's not going to have twelve pages building the definition of the words it's using. It assumes that the person reading the article will understand those words in the generally accepted way. Arguing over the semantics of words which have generally accepted meanings isn't the point. And even if it was an academic article that defined its terms with rigor and cited the foundations on which it was building, you don't necessarily have the means (or the desire) to link individual societal causes to individual events; rather, you're trying to show that general trends that exist are exemplified by this thing that happened. I'm not going to argue that this is the most well-written thing, but arguing the semantics of the definition of the word misogyny is missing the point entirely. |
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