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Funnygurl555 10-1-2019 04:18 PM

i came out to my parents
 
give an f for homophobia in 2019

it was time though. i figured at this point that i should get everything that wasn't "culturally acceptable" out in the open, so personally i'm good

but f

MixMasterLar 10-1-2019 04:34 PM

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This should really be funnier then it actually is :(

Funnygurl555 10-1-2019 04:44 PM

Re: i came out to my parents
 
if you want funny i can recall my mom's reaction

among my favorites were
"well can't you just date guys?"
"well i mean statistically yeah but i'm also attracted to girls"
"أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم"

MixMasterLar 10-1-2019 04:50 PM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Funnygurl555 (Post 4699892)
"أعوذ بالله من الشيطان الرجيم"

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Originally Posted by Funnygurl555 (Post 4699892)
"I seek refuge in Allah from the cursed Satan"

Aight well ok that's a reaction I suppose

BTW I read this as "I came out of my parents" and the quick scan read like a parody of confessing sins. I didn't mean to like suggest a serious thread should be funny or whatever

choof 10-1-2019 04:52 PM

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that sucks ass, also wew what that arabic translates to. my condolences bub

i stand to alienate upwards of 4 parents if i come out publicly as anything other than straight so there's a zero % chance that shit is happening

Funnygurl555 10-1-2019 04:53 PM

Re: i came out to my parents
 
its ok i have a habit of never "sounding serious" and stuff so i get it

i mean i'm alright the whole conversation was ridiculous and all so

my reaction was a mix of "lol" and "f"

rayword45 10-1-2019 04:53 PM

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good on you, and fuck your parents' homophobia

Funnygurl555 10-1-2019 04:56 PM

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thanks choof and rayword :)

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Originally Posted by choof (Post 4699895)
i stand to alienate upwards of 4 parents if i come out publicly as anything other than straight so there's a zero % chance that shit is happening

oof :(

Coolboyrulez0 10-1-2019 04:57 PM

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Originally Posted by rayword45 (Post 4699897)
good on you, and fuck your parents' homophobia

this. can never understand a parent not loving and supporting their child because their sexuality (or anything similar to this)

XelNya 10-1-2019 05:36 PM

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Originally Posted by Coolboyrulez0 (Post 4699899)
this. can never understand a parent not loving and supporting their child because their sexuality (or anything similar to this)

Acceptance is a concept beyond their ignorance.

That said tho, at least they know, maybe things will change in the future. Unlikely but.

choof 10-1-2019 05:55 PM

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Quote:

Originally Posted by Coolboyrulez0 (Post 4699899)
this. can never understand a parent not loving and supporting their child because their sexuality (or anything similar to this)

religious bigotry and indoctrination

qrrbrbirbel 10-1-2019 10:05 PM

Re: i came out to my parents
 
love is love is love is love

the only thing that has changed for me now that i know is gained respect for having to deal with such a hard f response from you're 'loved ones'


also thank you for helping with overpopulation

Dinglesberry 10-1-2019 10:26 PM

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the only argument that I would sort of be understanding of is if they were upset because they wanted grandchildren or something

which is also a shitty terrible argument and opinion but at least its logical enough (despite there being options like adoption etc..)

Dinglesberry 10-1-2019 10:32 PM

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it doesnt have to necessarily be religious bigotry, it might also a culture thing, like I said above, some may just hold on to traditional values of a working father and caregiving mother, for example places like Japan and other Asian countries aren't accepting of homosexuality either even though theyre majority no religion and the 2nd most common is buddhism so idk, I don't know too much about buddhism but I would guess that a big part of it is to treat people with respect

In your case religion plays a part in it but I feel that there are many other factors as to why someone wouldn't accept their childs sexuality that transcend religion, and multiple different things can be a cause.

MikeShinoda12345 10-1-2019 11:07 PM

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Proud of you, FG :) And happy that even with the reaction that you got, you're taking it well and secure enough in your own sexuality to know you're okay.

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Originally Posted by Dinglesberry (Post 4699936)
it doesnt have to necessarily be religious bigotry, it might also a culture thing, like I said above, some may just hold on to traditional values of a working father and caregiving mother, for example places like Japan and other Asian countries aren't accepting of homosexuality either even though theyre majority no religion and the 2nd most common is buddhism so idk, I don't know too much about buddhism but I would guess that a big part of it is to treat people with respect

At least from a Taiwanese perspective, homophobia is overwhelmingly different across generational lines. I can't really speak for other Asian countries because I don't know too much, but in Taiwan the younger someone is the more their thinking is likely influenced by Western/American politics, and within young and urban populations homosexuality is widely accepted with the only dissent coming from religious groups. I think my generation (early 20s) is pretty similar to people in North America, except that religious groups in Taiwan tend to be more conservative than North American religious groups, which have a lot of people who don't see a conflict between homosexuality and faith. However, the more rural and older your population is in Taiwan, there's a TON of resistance mainly just because "it's gross." And the vast majority of those who resist pro-LGBTQ legislation are elderly, in part because Taiwan and a lot of other East Asian countries are aging populations.

Sorry for getting a little political in this thread, though. This could be an interesting topic to have in another thread than this one~

Red Blaster 10-2-2019 03:01 AM

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but in all seriousness, I'm really proud of you Funny, as a straight male I could only imagine the courage it takes to have that sort of conversation with anyone, let alone mom and dad.

If your parents can't accept you for something as simple as your sexual preferences then it sounds like you're better off and it'll be their loss in the end.

PriestREA 10-2-2019 03:25 AM

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oh coming out to arabic parents is a fucking nightmare

glad you got it out of the way - time to clear your mind and move forward from all that nonsense

URL 10-2-2019 10:08 AM

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Stepmaniaplayer100 10-2-2019 01:32 PM

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I can very much relate to you funnygurl. When I came out to my mum she couldn't even look at me. Still cant 8 years later. Jokes on her though because I'm happy with my wife, and my mum wont be able to meet her.

Antori 10-2-2019 01:50 PM

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lol nice

clasko1000 10-2-2019 06:33 PM

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I'm really sorry you had to deal with that. I hope that you can find the strength to move past this. There will always be people who care for you and your happiness.


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