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The point is, sex is always awesome for the man, and being a man, all my sexual experiences have been awesome...no matter the position or hole. If your choice is to abstain, awesome for you. I applaud your will power. As for me? I'm weak. I enjoy pleasure. |
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The "83%" that you hear is 1) a made up statistic, and 2) it's supposed to be the success rate of condoms used altogether. That means used by the average person. That means, used wrong. Sperm don't "pass through" condoms. I don't know what they're teaching kids these days, but let me have a crack at them. |
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Edit-Oh yea sorry for the Typo on Ur NaMe Chrissi |
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Well, no one else has really attempted to counter-point your points, so I'll do that.
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You develop a good sex life with someone else based on a relationship that you already know contains those elements. Not the other way around. And people who abstain are quite particular. If you're only going to have sex with one person for your entire life, you're going to make damn sure that you're compatible with them. Quote:
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a) "awful" is a very subjective term. Most couples who abstain from sex talk about their sexual wants and expectations for a very long time. They know that the first time is not going to be the best time, so they get over it. They're not expecting sex to be some kind of magic pill that transforms their relationship forever, because they already know that they have a solid and loving relationship, so they're willing to spend decades learning how to have better sex. Thus, whereas a mediocre first time might disappoint people who don't abstain - who are expecting something out of sex - it doesn't disappoint abstainers. b) I'd like you to produce one single source where it suggests that non-masturbators who abstain have more disappointing sex lives than masturbators who abstain. This seems like something that's just assumed by those who masturbate. Quote:
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And for the record: "pregnancy/STDs" is the worst argument against abstinence there could possibly be. Most people who have premarital sex either a) know about the risks and don't care, b) know about the risks and take precautions against them, and/or c) know about the risks and don't think it could ever happen to them. Yes, abstinence is the only way you can be completely certain you'll both be free from unwanted pregnancy or STDs, and that certainty is a good thing, but most people are willing to accept a diminished chance as "good enough." |
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The point made was "For some people, abstaining is what you -want- and for some people it is -not- what you want, and for those people, abstaining is just as bad personally for them as not abstaining would be for you. Quote:
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Obviously the opposite is also true, but to deny that there could be -any- sources who support Chrissi is pretty absurd, just as Chrissi's claim that such is -always- the case is pretty absurd. You've got some cum hoc ergo propter hoc type stuff going on here and it isn't doing either of you any favours. Quote:
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Some people like waiting until the last minute to throw on the breaks. Some people are oblivious to others while they drive. Some people ride the gas pedal like there is no tomorrow. The point is, each driver is unique. Some are good, some are bad, some are really bad and end up crashing and dying. Someone who likes to coast up to a stop light (to save gas and avoid using the brake) would not be compatible with a brake driver. A sexplorer would not be compatible with a prude. I mean, it's not like it's just a hole that you stick it in and win a prize no matter what. There's technique involved. You really have to work it. You have to be able to pick up on your partners cues to see what he/she likes. |
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Simple answer is: Some people want to do all the discovery and learning with one person because they connect sex -solely- to the love and intimacy of making love. Some people connect sex with nothing but the physical appetite, and are happy to engage in the activity with any willing partner simply for the pleasure and experience. The middle path (And the one that I think is the correct one) is to combine both mentalities. Sex can be about pleasure and release and the meeting of an appetite, and sex can be about a deep and intimate expression of love and emotion.
To use a somewhat inaccurate metaphor, just because you eat McDonalds when you're hungry because it's fast and cheap and makes you not hungry doesn't mean you lose the ability to appreciate a homemade gourmet meal, made just for you by someone who knows your tastes. |
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Well I wasn't comparing food to girls. I was going for the difference, to use the usual terms, between ****ing because you're horny, and making love.
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i probably do not know alot about this subject, but if you ask me, marriage is just a scam to make alot of money. Even though people get married for love (sometimes) i see no reason for it so i have no problem with premarital sex
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How is marriage a scam to make money? Couples filing joint income taxes generally pay less to the government, and there is a minimal charge to file marriage lisences with the state.
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if they pay less in tax money, they would probably save money, essentially having more money. not nesscarily proving my point, as i intended to point out that other companies (caterers and the like) would make money, but i also pointed out im rather ignorant on the subject.
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I hardly think that the cost of a -wedding reception- constitutes the entire institution of marriage being a scam. If you are ignorant of a subject, CT is not the place to post about that subject.
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in a critical thinking forum, i knew debate would be typical, but apparently ideas about it being a chance learning experience have been proven wrong
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You don't learn by just jumping in and saying whatever occurs to you to say...you learn by watching, reading, and seeing how things work.
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to proceed furthur with this, i think a 1 on 1 discussion would b nessecary (but who wants that?)... this has gotten
rather off topic and doesnt apply to anything ive seen here...i regret posting at all and will probably regret posting this |
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I say as long as there is love. It is ok to have premarital sex if you are a religious freak.
Marriage is government issued and a fine line between how a couple is 'together'. Gay couples cannot get married (kind of... depends where you are...), so they cannot 'have sex'? ...Although pre-marital sex is mostly a religious topic, and gay marriage is out of the subject. But yeah. Refer to line one for my opinion. |
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Hey, it's Zajac. Sup dude.
ps. I'm a mod, I can do whatever I want and this so happens to be important business. pps. CT Version: I think this has already been said, but sex is a personal choice shaped by cultural and personal experience. Different cultures view sex in a different way. Attitudes change. American went through a sexual revolution in the 1960s, setting the bar for generations to come. The sex orgies of the 70s and 80s were fueled on cocaine and by the time the 90s came around, premarital sex is accepted by most adults. |
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