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Old 03-28-2012, 01:22 PM   #61
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Old 03-28-2012, 01:45 PM   #62
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Perhaps if you could ever convince your parents that you *can't* just change that you're gay, even if you wanted to, might be the biggest achievement into them accepting you for how you are.
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Old 03-28-2012, 02:06 PM   #63
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"Came clean" could mean anything. It could even be that you were hiding a bad test score cause you were doing something else other than studying, like going to narnia.

It seems like a lot of peoples first thoughts on this would be coming out of the closet.
But... that's what it was... I don't see where you're going with this.
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Old 03-28-2012, 02:07 PM   #64
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Old 03-28-2012, 02:36 PM   #65
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But... that's what it was... I don't see where you're going with this.
My computer derped and showed rubix's as the first post and this was the only page

Ignore my retarded posts.
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Old 03-28-2012, 02:42 PM   #66
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There's some cousin in your family right now who's like 'Yes, I'm no longer the biggest disappointment to the family, at least for now!' You totally made their day :-p
I have a transsexual uncle but that's all I know. And far from disappointment at least from my side. I know I've done my part and my responsibility. If by disappointment meaning I'm not going to partake exchanging my gene pool, I should be doing the family a great deal of a favor...

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I'm bisexual, I've never really seen why everybody makes such a big deal of telling their parents. Telling my parents hasn't even ever crossed my mind. It isn't really any of their business, who cares.
Most of the time, my parents talk about people's unorthodoxies and make it a big deal. I could have been trying to get something out of them knowing their own son is one of those people they shun and put down a lot.

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Perhaps if you could ever convince your parents that you *can't* just change that you're gay, even if you wanted to, might be the biggest achievement into them accepting you for how you are.
They'll accept me eventually, but I highly doubt they can accept the fact being gay isn't something simple as just "liking the same sex because I chose to start it on my own". My dad even brought up some gays get married to women just to be morally correct. This is also why I stopped talking.
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Old 03-28-2012, 02:53 PM   #67
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That's good dude. Tbh I think it's a lot more accepted (still not close to fully) in society, just adults/older people seem to have a problem with it. My dad, I know, would be pissed considering he is very religious and I would probably never tell him.
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Old 03-28-2012, 02:56 PM   #68
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I'm bisexual, I've never really seen why everybody makes such a big deal of telling their parents. Telling my parents hasn't even ever crossed my mind. It isn't really any of their business, who cares.
This explains my situation, except I'd lean more towards curious.
I'm not tight with my family. They love me to death, but we don't really talk much. Parents keep yelling at each other so I see no point in telling them personal stuff.
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Old 03-28-2012, 04:06 PM   #69
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Default Re: So I finally came clean to my parents.

I actually didn't know that you were gay.

It's also quite surprising to not only see a lot of people admitting that they too share the same fate, but also to see a lot of people being entirely supportive of it. Congratulations on mustering up the courage to tell your parents -- when you have clashing morals (especially within religious families), things can get downright ugly.

EDIT: and also, awesome to all of you openly admitting and being confident that people will respect your opinions, because it definitely seems like that is the case here.
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Old 03-28-2012, 04:17 PM   #70
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When did you realize you were gay?
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Old 03-28-2012, 04:43 PM   #71
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a shame your parents think "wrong" of you.


honestly it just makes you another person I don't see the big deal with being gay hehu
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Old 03-28-2012, 11:31 PM   #72
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When did you realize you were gay?
Very young of age... about the age of 6-7 when I started to "act funny" around male counterparts, but didn't admit it to myself until 6th grade. I kept it under wraps since then, kept it a secret so hard as if my life depended on it. I acted to the point where no one finds out, even got myself to go out with girls just to see if that'll change anything.


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Old 03-28-2012, 11:59 PM   #73
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While support from someones parents can be crucial and important to an individual and their intentions, it's not always necessary with the rest of the world, especially your friends support you. I for one have always accepted you without question as a great man Flip Don't let any hard feelings from your parents ruin the mood for you. Be free with that shit <3
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Old 03-29-2012, 01:17 AM   #74
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You're going to have an awkward phase where your parents are going to get used to it, but once that passes, you can worry about bigger things. Of course, that's saying if they let it pass...
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Old 03-29-2012, 01:19 AM   #75
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Congrats on having the courage to do that. For me, starting to come to terms with myself being bi, probably won't let any of my family know for many years, but might try and tell to my mum sometime in the next year or so.

She's told me many times before that she doesn't care if I was gay or not years ago, just that I be confident and everything in life, and try to have a good future...but it's still hard to think about me having to tell her one day :/
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Old 03-30-2012, 10:48 AM   #76
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Glad to see you felt it was the right time bro. Hope they properly come around soon and see there' nothing wrong with having different sexualities.
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Old 03-30-2012, 11:00 AM   #77
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big congrats and props for having the guts to tell your parents (y)


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Old 03-30-2012, 11:07 AM   #78
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Well, sounds like your dad already knows it's not a choice to me...'gays get married to women', implying they're still gay and therefore, don't have the choice of not being gay even though their actions are straight. Maybe your dad's gay himself...

Well, you can be happy knowing that at least society accepts gays as they are.
Honestly, in your shoes I'd probably not talk to my parents for years if they told me I was choosing 'wrong'. You're a better person than me.
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Old 04-2-2012, 12:08 PM   #79
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@Cavernio: How my dad "curses" and make such implications, I actually wouldn't be surprised. It crossed my mind during the first talk, even though I doubt it. But he claims to "hate" gay people.

I didn't want to bump this back up, but after only two days of coming out the closet to my parents, the relationship has whirled into lower hell, and am willing to vent it here since I can.. and I trust that the community will continue to take the situation in a sane manner:

Getting out of work last night I get a text from my dad saying we need to talk. Hmm, de ja vu, I wondered. So I got home and we did. The talk: he and my mom does not want to see me anymore. They are not going to accept the fact I am the way I am and are STILL convince I can change it. Until I change my ways, get a wife and kids, I am no longer welcomed in the house nor am I considered their son. Every word verbatim. The folks' solution: Live a lie. It's better than going to hell for being gay. Perfect logic makes perfect sense..

Disowned? Pretty much. Didn't say a word again because actually expected all this. Nor do I have

They throw out how I am selfish, always thinking of myself, when in reality I came back for them to be a family again and help out with mortgage. Apparently, it didn't work out and being gay aggravated the already shaky relationship. I got called dirty. And in this discussion, more religious banter came out and that's where it got irritating to even listen. Sodom and Gomorrah here, your fate is going to hell there. In my head I kept laughing.

They want me to move out as soon as possible. I told them I'm moving out on the 10th. They said can you make it any sooner?

But anyway, I'm actually am very glad I told these folks of mine my true self, because I in turn got to see their true colors. I don't know who is the bigger hypocrite here, please tell me. And to be honest, I am the slightest phased by the situation, though I'm just a bit shocked they would go this far. I can only imagine what they had done to me if I came out any younger or sooner. To add to their insecurity, they said if any other family member finds out, they claim they're going to be looked at as failures.

I'm letting family members know very soon.
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To add to their insecurity, they said if any other family member finds out, they claim they're going to be looked at as failures.

I'm letting family members know very soon.
you are a badass

if that's the way they treat you, good riddance. did your parents expect you to be the key to heaven? lol.
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