Long distance relationships?

[cetaka]

Originally Posted by Snowcrafta

Proximity is the most essential part of any relationship

What about dishes?

[devonin]

Originally Posted by cetaka

What about dishes?

Luckily, I don't mind doing the dishes.

[Nyokou]

LDR isn't bad if you can make it work. It's not for everyone.

But once you start living together, the biggest issue won't be dishes or weird habits or failed expectations... it will most likely be money.

[kommisar]

I cook and do the dishes. nobody touches my fucking kitchen. she cleans the rest of the house. I PROVIDE.



we have been living without confrontation with a great stream of open communication but yeah the dishes definitely help.

[Cavernio]

Originally Posted by devonin

Luckily, I don't mind doing the dishes.

So can I put the 'What do you do when the dishwasher breaks down?' joke into practice?

[devonin]

Originally Posted by Cavernio

So can I put the 'What do you do when the dishwasher breaks down?' joke into practice?

Only if the punchline is "Get him to the doctor"

[Cavernio]

Oh come now, it wouldn't hurt THAT much :-p

[FoJaR]

Originally Posted by jaz_pup

I also believe that because so much effort goes into a relationship like that, that when the distance is overcome, the relationship is much stronger than a "standard" relationship.

i mean it's cute that you think that, but your relationship will never be as strong as mine. sry : /

[Cavernio]

Get off your high horse Fojar, Putin's leading it afterall...

[jaz_pup]

Originally Posted by FoJaR

i mean it's cute that you think that, but your relationship will never be as strong as mine. sry : /

It's possible. It seems silly to me to compare the strength of other relationships. I just think that my relationship stemming from a LDR is stronger than any one I would have had locally. We've been through too much to let something little get in the way and so, where most people may give up on a relationship due to a problem/argument/whatever, I feel that with all the time and money invested, we can't just throw all that away.

And the dishes are a big deal. He does those most of the time lol

[funmonkey54]

It can also be a big stress for you when you DO get time together. On the one hand, you want to be super physical because it's a big part of what you didn't get when you were apart. But if that happens more than once, it starts to feel like all you're waiting for when you aren't physically present together. And that's a bad mentality.

[jaz_pup]

Originally Posted by funmonkey54

It can also be a big stress for you when you DO get time together. On the one hand, you want to be super physical because it's a big part of what you didn't get when you were apart. But if that happens more than once, it starts to feel like all you're waiting for when you aren't physically present together. And that's a bad mentality.

Yeah that's a tough thing to balance.
One thing I really hated was the opinions everyone else seemed to have. The number of times people told me their stories of cheating, and how LDRs never, ever, work used to really irritate me. I'd like to think if I had a bad experience involving a LDR, I wouldn't try to sour a potentially fine relationship by discussing my bad experiences, but instead, hope they are one of the lucky few.

[melonpapes]

I've tried it, its surprisingly easy to make it work if you both want to. It requires about double the trust though so if theres any doubt there it probably isn't worth trying until the trust issues are outta the way.

[jaz_pup]

Originally Posted by melonpapes

I've tried it, its surprisingly easy to make it work if you both want to. It requires about double the trust though so if theres any doubt there it probably isn't worth trying until the trust issues are outta the way.

That's true, but I think the same can be said for a local relationship also. It's difficult to maintain ANY relationship while still dealing with trust issues.

[FoJaR]

my point is just that relationship strength depends only on the two people involved.

do you honestly think he would be more likely to cheat on you if you hadnt had a long distance relationship? you might feel comfortable with your relationship now, but after you get used to being together and some time passes, you'll be left with the relationship that you would have had anyways.

all time apart does is extend the honeymoon.

[jaz_pup]

Originally Posted by FoJaR

my point is just that relationship strength depends only on the two people involved.

do you honestly think he would be more likely to cheat on you if you hadnt had a long distance relationship? you might feel comfortable with your relationship now, but after you get used to being together and some time passes, you'll be left with the relationship that you would have had anyways.

all time apart does is extend the honeymoon.

I don't think the relationships would end up the same. I believe that the time spent at distance kinda forces the couple to get to know each other more than if they lived close. So I think they end up knowing each other better by starting the relationship that way.

[FoJaR]

maybe in the first few months, but after a few years it's all gonna even out.

[mellonxcollie]

Originally Posted by FoJaR

all time apart does is extend the honeymoon.

This is a very common opinion but in my experience it just isn't true at all. It may be true for some people who try to intentionally hide some aspects of their personality online, with negative aspects coming out later IRL. But if both people try to honestly communicate and be as open as possible it's very possible to get to know someone well online, or learn to hate them online ~ It will only extend the honeymoon in the physical sense

[FoJaR]

no i am saying that neither way makes for a stronger relationship, it all depends on the individuals involved.

[Cavernio]

long distance is shit but not having any relationship with the person you desire is far, far shittier