I hate my life

[A2P]

I just got back home from Thanksgiving, drunk and in tears because my sister talked about our dad with such malice that it overwhelms me. Maybe this is a silly thread, or I'm being too sensitive, but god damn it, this hurts.

My sister is angry at dad because he hasn't exactly helped her out with her student loans. Understandable, I could see how that would upset someone - what she said next though was some of the most hurtful words I have ever heard in my life. She called dad a lowlife, a useless asshole who doesn't care about us, a deadbeat, a narcissistic jackass who's too greedy to help his children.

Oh yeah?

What about the fact that since mom and dad divorced, he's always made time to see us? You know, so that we can bond with him, since we were 7 & 8 years old? Did you forget about that, you ungrateful bitch?

What about the fact that dad has never missed a single payment of child support to mom, showing that no matter how hard it was for him, he always took care of us even when he wasn't around? Bet you didn't think about that huh?

How about this - how about how he has ALWAYS paid for our fucking plane tickets so that we can come over and spend time with him? You remember how he got laid off from his job, and in order to survived, he searched practically the entire fucking country to land a good job, so that he could help us?

But no. He's an asshole. He's a selfish, greedy asshole, because he doesn't pay for your student loans. I do agree he should help you out...but to forget about him entirely simply because of loan issues, is despicable.

I'm crying so much right now. I hate myself. I hate my family. I wish I were never born - I'm probably just a burden to everyone anyway, so what's there to lose?

God damn it, where's the whiskey.

[SK8R4LY]

chill out man

[iironiic]

Have you talked to your sister about how you felt about her words? Did you make sure to see if your father is okay (if she said those words to the father)?

[Xx{Midnight}xX]

Link her to this thread man. Or have someone else do it for you if you don't think you can.

But yeah your dad the way you describe him is eons ahead of my biological father. He doesn't sound the way your sister describes him.

Also, I'd probably avoid the alcohol or any other drugs. You seriously don't want to become the burden you say you think you are, which to be honest, I don't know you well enough to gauge but you're probably not a burden to anyone.

[Dynam0]

I don't know the whole story, but that is quite selfish of your sister to react that negatively. Sometimes our dreams aren't handed to us and we have to earn them the hard way. That doesn't mean we should think the world or our parents owe us something (our generation is awful for this reason).

Best thing is to talk it out as a family and try to do it without the yelling and screaming...explain to your sis how much it hurt you to listen to her attack your dad.

Hope things work out man!

[Razor]

thanks for the drama

[MarioNintendo]

Originally Posted by Xx{Midnight}xX

Link her to this thread man. Or have someone else do it for you if you don't think you can.

But yeah your dad the way you describe him is eons ahead of my biological father. He doesn't sound the way your sister describes him.

Also, I'd probably avoid the alcohol or any other drugs. You seriously don't want to become the burden you say you think you are, which to be honest, I don't know you well enough to gauge but you're probably not a burden to anyone.

This post has everything rational you have to consider in it, and I think you should use Middie's suggestion, quite honestly.

[-zeroSKILL-]

I must be a massive prick... but it makes me happy to see you sad.

Happy Thanksgiving.

[bender5]

Hey man, you could have it so much worse.

Your dad could be a drug addicted shitbird, who refuses to help out. The fact that your parents are divorced and your dad does everything in his power to help you and you sister is a blessing.

Some girls now a days are fucking cunts. They just want things handed to them and complain when they don't get the thins they want.

Don't you ever relate your self worth to something your sister does.

Everyone can achieve greatness, and everyone can benefit from their upraising.

Being a child of divorced parents can only make you stronger. Never forget your roots and be grateful for everything you have and have been given.

Your sister may be a spoiled bitch, but from what I've read from your posts, that's not the way you are.

Keep your chin up soldier, you need to prove you can do anything in front of you, and you totally can, as long as you truly try.

[TC_Halogen]

Originally Posted by Razor

thanks for the drama

Originally Posted by -zeroSKILL-

I must be a massive prick... but it makes me happy to see you sad.

Happy Thanksgiving.

...wow.

I feel absolutely terrible - I know what it's like to be caught in the middle of family issues. Here's something for you to think about: you're entirely aware of the how hard your father worked, and it seems very obvious that your sister is selfish simply because your father has provided for you all time and time again, yet she had the audacity to call him a deadbeat and whatnot.

Your father took a verbal beating and you felt the pain. I like to think about this in a physical situation - if you and your father were being physically attacked by your sister, would you both just sit there and take it in tears? I very much doubt it with you being a man, and moreso with her being your sister. Stand up for yourself and tell your sister that what she said is wrong. She will more than likely not be receptive of what you have to say, but if she isn't understanding of how much she truly has (and has received from your father), she needs to be put in line. When you go up to her, start by talking to her and trying to reason with her, and if it doesn't work, tell her that she is being incredibly ungrateful and should realize that some people would KILL to have an ounce of support from their father.

I'm legitimately upset for you; I sat here listening to my mother tell me how my father is the biggest piece of shit for leaving her and how she never did anything wrong. I also sat and listened to her tell me that I'm a deadbeat and won't ever get anywhere in my life. We'll see in a few years.

Stay strong, man.

[-zeroSKILL-]

Originally Posted by TC_Halogen

...wow.

Sorry. A2P has never been anything more than a massive prick and troll to me. It gives me some level of satisfaction to see the human side of him, and in tears no less.

Made my Thanksgiving day quite a bit better seeing this.

[justin_ator]

@-zeroSKILL- You know, I can understand distaste towards someone for how they've treated you, but don't you think that's kinda low? I mean even if Anaru (who I have no issue with anymore) was still trolling me and posted a thread like this, I'd still feel bad for him.

@A2P,

Kinda what was said before, don't take it so hard on yourself because of what she said. Talk to her about it if you think it will help, but above all know that she is wrong and keep that in the forefront of your mind. chin up dude

[Reincarnate]

A2P: How much in loans does she have?

What did she study? Where did she go to school?

What was the situation before she went to school? How were finances discussed? How did your sister make her decision? What was your father's input?


tl;dr more information is needed

[AlexDest]

Jesus A2P...

I agree it was selfish for your sister to lash out at your father in such a way. Your father had put a lot into spending time with both of you for years, which makes him an awesome father. It's disappointing that your sister had that clouded by loan issues... You need to give your sister a complete rebuttal via showing her this thread or talking it out as a family. I could relate with family problems of my own, and it's tough trying to work them out.

Hope everything goes well man.

Originally Posted by -zeroSKILL-

I must be a massive prick... but it makes me happy to see you sad.

Happy Thanksgiving.

Originally Posted by -zeroSKILL-

Sorry. A2P has never been anything more than a massive prick and troll to me. It gives me some level of satisfaction to see the human side of him, and in tears no less.

Made my Thanksgiving day quite a bit better seeing this.

Labeling yourself as a massive prick is a MASSIVE understatement.

[Pseudo Enigma]

Originally Posted by -zeroSKILL-

Sorry. A2P has never been anything more than a massive prick and troll to me. It gives me some level of satisfaction to see the human side of him, and in tears no less.

Made my Thanksgiving day quite a bit better seeing this.

Get the fuck out and take your hate somewhere else.

edit; I'm having a hard time trying to sum up some sort of helpful message that hasn't been said a million times already A2P. Hang in there, and maybe your sister will learn some gratitude some day soon.

[Zon Fire]

zero.

shutup.

You have close to no idea what he's going through. you don't have to sympathize
but being a complete ass is uncalled for.


a2p. I feel for ya man, situations get tense with family affiars especially with a one sided attack on someone you care deeply for. The things your sister says may be out of spite rather than how she truly feels. I hope for your familys sake the truth dawns on her conscious and things will lighten up.

Good luck with these endeavors.

[foilman8805]

My parents aren't helping me with my student loans (of which I have nearly 100K), and I still love them. Your sister is being a megabitch, bruh.

[Charu]

I haven't experienced anything from what I'm reading so I can't have a say, however I do wish you the best of luck of feeling better.

If what you say is true, then your father sounds like a good man. Maybe your sister is just stressed and so took it out on your father because those stressed thoughts have to go somewhere eventually, haha.

Sorry to hear though, but don't you think you're a burden to anyone. That's crazy thinking and you shouldn't be thinking like that.

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Also, what the... guess someone was angry too in this thread, dohohoho.

[Reincarnate]

foilman, how are your monthly payments?

[foilman8805]

My minimum payment is about ~$900 total. I usually put $1200-$1300 on them a month. The extra money is mostly going to the loans with the higher interest rates.